Im with you on this one just not with my daughter. With my husband. He says things like, "You have no reason to stress", "You are too sensitive", "You've got it easy", "I do everything around here", "Thats not a job" and makes comments about what Im not doing right, what I should do, how I should do things and then doesnt listen to me in return. I hold back on "I told you so" a lot and feel like he still hasnt learned that in a lot of situations I actually do know better - at least when it comes to house responsibilities and our child. I want teamwork between the two of us but he likes to say "It goes both ways" though I am the only one who puts effort into it. His chores - my chores... I do mine and his and I get nothing from him. I get no thank-yous and feel very under appreciated. In my case, I am the one on the computer most often just because I feel like he never wants to spend time with me anyways. I would much rather be with him but he doesnt show that he cares whether I am there or not. Then he gets on my case for being on the computer. The house is always clean, all chores always done, child is taken care of and entertained in many ways... I dont know what else he would want from me really. He has mentioned before that he wishes I had a job just for the extra money but he also does not understand that if I were to get a job it wouldnt even pay half of what he makes, which also means my entire paycheck would go to childcare. We are living well with just a single income but for some reason it is still not enough for him. I have a lot of sad feelings toward myself and between the two of us, almost like I am just not good enough in his eyes. These things have been discussed between the two of us and it just ends up in arguments and too many tears. I am confused and I just dont know what to do anymore. I really want to make this work and feel better about myself. All comments are welcome on this! |
