help im not sure what to do about this situation. my son is 18 months and his cousin is almost 2. eveytime he is around him he beats the crap out of my son for no reason without provication. my son will just minding his own business and he will seek him out to push him kick scratch pinch and etc. i know his other cousin picks on him at times but its nowhere near this level. any clue as to why he is doing it and how to solve the problem?

thx ali

I would suggest you NOT bring your son around this child at all.  If you do stand right next to him.  You must protect your son.

Have you talk to the parents,? the kid is only 2 at that age they really don't do things because they are mean.  If the parents do not correct his behaviour then it is not the child fault.  If I were you I would talk to the parents, if the parents take your concern in the wrong way, then like Amanda says avoid going near the kid. 

Why he is doing this you ask?  First he is testing his limits with other kids, second he is testing the limits of the adult around him.  He is screaming for attention.  IF he is doing this my guessing is the parents are not giving him the right kind of attention or not attention at all.

My sister has this same problem with her husband's nephew and her kids.  He is always hitting them and even bitting them. Usually after they get together her kids end with swallen bumps in the head and scratches.  She talked to the parents and they are in denial, so she is constantly next to her kids and redirecting the nephew's attention to other things.  But she blames the behaviour 100% on the parents who usually are not around to look after their son.

Hope this helps.

yea his father isn tin his life and he i watched by his grandparents while his mother works so there is no one really displining him. i tried talking to his mom but she says he learns it because his other cousin picks on him. which i find to be a load of crock. she does pick on him but only little stuff not anywhere near the extent to which is done to my son...i never leave him unsupervised with him . i hate to have to feel over protected but he could get seriously hurt in the process and it makes me soo mad that they dont do much about it. they yell and tell him thats bad but that is pretty much it. i always feel like the bad guy when we are around because he only does it to my two and not his sister or other cousin. im hoping they starting taking it serious because we are there all the time in the summer, thx for the advice

ali