So yeah my baby's daddy is a jerk and doesn't do anything for our daughter. About six months ago I met this amazing guy and he is everything i want in a guy. We are so happy together and he loves my daughter like his own, but what is killing me and now our relationship is that he doesn't love me. It's been six months if it's not happening it's not happening right? It's killing me because it's not just the end of a relationship it's the end of all the plans that I had and well I thought I found someone to share my life with who would be there and help me raise my daughter. But now it's over and I am sooooo scared of doing it on my own. I scares the living day lights out of me. I just don't know how to be a parent to my daughter i don't know how to do it alone. It hurts some much and not just me and him but the realization that once again i have to be a single parent any thoughts guys I feel like i'm drowning here??

Hello, Do you have any family that could help you till you get on your feet? Do you live at your boyfriends house or is it your house? You are young and you shouldn't have to raise your daughter by yourself, does her "daddy" help you out any financially?? If not you need to take him to court and get child support, there is no reason he shouldn't help you. He has a responsibility now weather he wants it or not. I wish I had some words of encouragement but all I can say is believe in your self and remember you have your daughter who loves you unconditionally, and she needs you to be strong for her. Believe in yourself that you can take care of you and your daughter and you don't need any man, cause when you do find him he's going to admire your strength and devotion and determination. So push that chin up and wipe those tears away.. cause feeling sorry for yourself isn't going to help any.. If I've helped any you can write me back, I'll be glad to chat with you some more.

Hey love, Ive been there I know its scary, but you take it one day at a time and push through it. Trust me in the end you will get alot more out of it and will enjoy your daughter that much more. Kristi is right take that sob to court. I didnt have that option after I took my exs rights away. I was lucky to have a family who was supportive. You need to put on a happy face for your daughter as hard as that is. In the end you will show your daugher how strong you are and she will learn from that and be a strong person because of that. I had my daughter when I was barely 20. Her dad couldnt be bothered so I told him to kick rocks. When she turned a year old I went to college to better myself. At times hell ya it was hard and sucked but you know what. I because a better person because of it and it will always be my daughter and I against the world. Man or no man. She made me who I am and she gave me the strenght to push through no matter how bad things got. You need to reach out to whatever support you can get. Just not to depend on a guy even though at times it seems easier. Trust me its not because when they dont work out you are the one out on your butt not him. Just keep your head up and use this site and the people on it as your support system. We have all been through it one way or another.

Thanks a lot guys :) yeah i decided to grab life with both hands and give it my all. My schooling starts tomorrow and i found a job full time nights at a diner. Which is good my mom is going to help out and watch my daughter while i work so yeah i'm in a much better place i was just sad the other night and felt alone. I can do this i know i can i took the hardest step 8 months ago when i left my ex. I will be strong for me and might daughter she is all i need and the weaker i am the more likely she is to be a weak person and i can't have that. I don't need a man i'll be just fine on my own. thanks again guys 

No matter how strong you are you will have you "weak" days. It doesnt mean your daughter will become that. She is going to become what you show her and guide her to be. Trust me. Im bipolar and have had some very bad days..You would think because of it my daughter would act out or when she sees im acting cold hearted that she would become the same..No she is still compastionate and very caring. So just because you have a couple of days where you dont feel as strong doesnt mean that you are a weak person. But congrats with the job and going back to school. That was a huge step!

You should never stay in a relationship that is not healthy. But now days people are throwing in the towel too soon. We don't make the men be accountable for their actions. When they leave they sometimes act as though it is only the mother's responsibilty to take care of the child. This cycle has to be broken. Child support is not enough. We as women have to figure out a way to make things work. Don't get me wrong you should not stay in an abusive situation period. People are breaking up over minor things. At the time it seems major but when you calm down its something you could work out. This does not apply to everyone. If things can be worked out it would stop all these kids with the same father but different mothers.  My husband has three baby mommas including me. He has four children growing up in different houses. Its really sad to me.   They will never really know each other.