Why do men think that it is so easy being a stay at home mom and that just bc they work out side the home that when they are home they shouldnt have to lift a finger to help out. I have to beg and bitch just to get anything done then he wonders why i am bitchy or distant. Why do i wannabe close to someone that wont help me out. Its not like i ask for much, washing dishes everyother day putting away clothes after i washed dried and folded them and chaning one diaper maybe two a day.Is that relly too much bc i dont think so. I am so tired of acting like i am happy. I ma tired of pretending that this the life i want. I know love him more than anything but i am starting to think maybe love just isnt enough? I am tired of the fighting and yellin. I just want it all to stop. I dont know what to do anymore.

I am normally asleep by now but couldnt sleep i am going to be tired tommorrow. I just want things to be better i ask for help and all he does is complain and that makes me bitch normally but lately i just being keeping quiet havent really said much. I feeling i am gonna explode. How do i keep my cool through all this bullshit i worked all day i am tired well so did i you dont think i am tired just day to day drama. So sick of it well i am just rambling now peace

Girl I can so relate to your problem, I was in your shoes and sometimes I still have to ask my husband to do something for me, it might take months but eventually it'll get done. I used to yell and bitch and cry to my husband about needing help around the house, having 3 kids it's hard to fit everything in chore wise and take care of the kids needs. I saw on your profile that you are 20 yrs old with a 1 yr. old and he has a 7 yr. old, girl you have your hands full, men seriously don't understand the mental stress we go through. What exactly are you asking him to do that he will not help you with?? For one he should be ashamed of himself for not helping out with just the little things, he needs to grow up and be the husband/boyfriend, father that he needs to be. And for two when do you get a break?? Your job is 24/7 and you don't even get paid.. I'm sure you didn't lie down and make the baby all by yourself, and for you to step up and be a mom to his daughter is just awesome.. you need to sit down with him and have a real talk no yelling or bitching.. just "tell" him that if you didn't need his help you wouldn't ask for it, and that it really hurts your feelings that he doesn't take you seriously when you ask, like it's not even important. I hope my suggestion helps, Good Luck and let me know what happens.. Just remember keep your cool, you get nothing accomplished by yelling..

Thankyou so much. All i ask him to do is put away the clothes i make they are all folded and and put on hangers all he has to do is put them in closet and in drawers and i ask him to help with dishes and change his daughters diaper if she goes poop when he is home if she go poop he doesnt have to change her. I am like a mother to his other child i always find fun crafts to do together when we have her if she has homework when we have her i help her with that. We play games and she would rather spend time with me then him bc he is mean to her sometimes but doesnt realize it i try to talk to him bout it but he doesnt get it. I never get a break unless I am lucky enough to talk my parents and nanna into watching her for weekend which has only happened twice since she was born.

Well things are bout to get a whole lot harder so my stepdaughters mom got caught shoplifttin yet agian with her kids and finally took her to jail this time so dss is involved and are taking her kids so dss has to come and do a home visit to make sure our house meets there standards and she will be living with us from now on as long as everytihng goes with them which it should. Wish us luck.

Trust me Dss has been in my life more than once because people like to start stuff. They arent as bad as people make them seem. Al I can say is make sure the house is well kept...not spotless, food in the fridge and cabinets, and they have a safe place to sleep. Other than that just welcome them into your home like you would anyone else and go through the normal bs they want you to go through, but from the sounds of it you will be fine. Dont go crazy about it and dont start scrubbing everything in site. They know you have kids and dont expect the house to be perfect.

thank you very much i think things will fine you have a bed fer her and everything sll the chemicals are locked up all the food is out up and we have a lot of it lol. Her mom just got evicted from her house she has been in an rv with her mom and dad and her and my stepdaughter abby and her bro have all been sharing a couch bed together.

Thats horrible. Just keep your head up. I know its going to be a big adjustment, but I have complete faith you can do it. It just shows women are alot stronger than men are..by far!!!

Yeah we are but i am so just starting to soucnd guess everything bc they didnt put her with us imediatly. She is going back to her moms today. Till they come in do the home she lives in sc and we just moved to nc bout an hour away. so the lady said she needed to make a requst to nc. But you would think it would better for her to be with us bc we have a house. I dont see what the diff is she can be here on the weekend but cant stay for good till the do the home inspection. I guess maybe they just dont want to get in trouble nc i guess. What do you think. I am glad everything is working with you and your bf.

I think its because they dont want to take the kids from the mother. I was told that its a last resort to do that. What pissed me off when I was taking harold's (the sperm donor) rights away they wanted to have them come inspect me house and see what the environment was like for Kaylee before letting this take place. My response was you had no problem with her living with me before and if you are that concerned then why dont you send a social worker home with everyone person that pops out a kid. They dont always make sense, well I should say most of the time. It is frustrating, but keep making an effort to get her to stay with you guys. It will all fall into place trust me it always does just doesnt seem that way. But personally I think the whole situation is bull.

Yeah it is right she living in an rv with her moms mom and dad and her mom and bro its five people living in an travel trailer. She just got evvicted from her house has no job no money but the child support and her duaghters ssi. She has no means of support the lady said someone needs to do a homel visit. But i think if we lived closer they would let her stay bc we culd get her to school but with uso living an hour away we can get her to school that easily. So they need to make sure things work out before we can transfur schools the lady told us on the phone they where taking her kids bc she has no means to support them. But they want me to her lil boy but i cant do that.

She wants you to what with her little boy? I cant believe what she is putting those poor kids through. You are a much nicer and patient person than me. I would have gone off already between the stress and the bs.

yeah i know it is taking everything i have not to flip but i have you talk to bout it and my sis so it makes it a lil easier the dss lady wanted me to take the lil boy to live with us. But now they just playin we talk to one lady fri she says one thing we talk to another lady today and she says that abby is just got gonna stay with her mom my bf said no she is not that is not a good enviroment you guys need to come and do home likr your suppossed to so she can come live with us.  

Thats so stupid!!! Glad I can be of some help. They usually dont communicate with eachother I was told one thing by one person and something else from a different person. Now who does the little boy belong to? Your man or just her and someone else?

Yeah it is stupid they must not talk to each other ans the lil boy belongs to her and her hubby but her left her like 2 months ago.