Hi. My bf is going away to basic training in 8 days and we are doing nothing but fighting. He currently lives with me and up until recently we were fine. Lately he seems to be sneaky at times and bitchy. Are biggest arguement is because we have not had any time alone to do anything since some time in feb and that was at night. I asked him to take a day from work to spend an entire day with me and he threw a fit! Yet he can make time for the mother of his child. Yes it will be with his son but she was around on sunday with him and then she will be again fri and monday...Seriously. What pisses me off the most is she made a requst from him and he took time and whoever else wanted to spend time with him he is making sure to say good bye to but the only time im going to be able to spend alone with him will be after my daughter goes to bed and we will be home probably fighting. He has a party on fri, sat we have a bday party and so on so the only alone time I will get will be driving him to the recruters office. I know im being sensitive but please tell me they understand where Im coming from. Ive been telling him for weeks that we should be taking more time together and talking about stuff but it is never followed through with. He feels im just being bitchy and making a big deal out of nothing, but he has seriously hurt me. What the heck do I do?

Hello, I was wondering how long have you and your bf been dating?? I really don't know why he would be acting the way he is, if everything was fine till recently. The only suggestion is maybe be a little patient and understanding, maybe something is bothering him about having to leave you.. How long will he be gone for?? Have you asked him why he's been being bitchy?  I'm sure everything is fine.. sometimes guys just get nervous when they have to leave home.. Don't take it personally.. Good Luck.

We havent been dating long at all but he was living with me for two months. He did fix his attitude before he left. He finally opened up and told me how he felt about EVERYTHING. He left on the 16th and called me non stop till he got to base and then used his one phone call to let his family know he was ok to call me.  He is gone until July 2nd. So far it really sucks but I know it will all work out in the end. He made some major adjustments because I sat him down and said exactly what I felt and said before he left he needed to find a way to open up. But so far so good. He is adjusting well just right now is fighting off a cold. Thank you though for the advice. Just sucks because I have about 13 weeks to go.

Hello, I'm so glad everything is going great for you, I think we have a hard time figuring men out and thanks to web sites like this we can ask for advice. I've been married for 13yrs. and I'm still trying to figure mine out..lol.. But one thing I have learned over the years is to always talk about what is bothering you, you'll fill so much better afterward. And I also believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder..lol.. Maybe your being apart will bring you closer and you'll both realize how much you mean to each other. SOme guys just need a little push when it comes to opening up and showing their feelings. If you'd like to talk again you can write me anytime.. Glad I could help.

Thanks hun..Actually last night I got my first letter from him. Turns out he has been writting since the night he got up there. He told me how he felt about us and everything to do about our relationship not like before he left when it was about life in general and fears he had. I have never had him open up like this before. He would start to open up before but then would change the subject so we didnt have to talk about it anymore. Before he left I had doubts about our relationship and we got into some pretty stupid fights, but since he has been gone I realized how stupid the fights really were and how much he really means to me. Ya it sucks that hes gone, but if he didnt leave I dont think he would ever tell me half of what he wrote in those letters. One thing though the ding bat put my address for the return address so I cant write back to him yet..I hope its because he doesnt know his address yet otherwise I will never let him live this down lol

Hello again..lol I think that most fights are over something stupid thank God my husband and I have never had a serious fight.. but you can look back and make it a learning experience on whats being childish and what really needs to be said. And I think it's great that he's opening up to you and "talking" to you I think that's difficult for some men to do. And I think your right if he hadn't left he probably wouldn't have opened up like he has.. I think him being away from you he's had time to think about your relationship and what  you mean to him. And maybe his next letter he'll write the right return address... that's funny!

I sure hope so..Right now I think someone broke into his facebook account because now it says hes single. The thing is if it were true he wouldnt have made all his phone calls to me or wrote me the letter that he did. Also he would have sent me some kind of message. Just fed up with the bullshit.

Girl, I bet you are, but that is weird that his  face book says he is single.. And I agree with you he wouldn't have opened up to you and then do this. I really wouldn't worry to much about it, I'd surely ask him about it the next time he writes or calls. Would you mind if I added you to my friends list, I really like talking to you and it would be great to keep in touch, if not that's o.k. I'm new to this web-site and I don't have any friends on here.. but I do like reading peoples posts and try to give advice if I can. Let me know either way..Talk to ya soon..

Already added you!

Great news I heard from him and turns out someone hacked into his account. But we are still very much together. Now just waiting for his other letters he sent so I have the address

Well that's good to hear..sucks that someone hacked his face book ..lol but great that your still together. Do you think he has any idea of who hacked his face book? Keep me posted..

Thank you. He was quite upset when he called yesterday and I asked him when was I going to be told we broke up. Then proceeded to tell me he could never do that because he couldnt see himself without me. Also if he knew he was going to meet someone like me he would never had signed the papers. We arent sure we think it maybe this girl I have recently had trouble with, but thats a long story in itself. All I care about is I didnt fully believe it and his timing calling couldnt be more perfect. So I have to say to whoever did it good try, but didnt work. So hows life with you going? Any better?

We'll I'm glad he called and you got to talk about his  face book being hacked.. did he even know about it?? And I think you did a great job not believing it till you talked to him first.. And I'm so glad things are great between ya'll.. We'll as for me my husband and I are getting the kids (3) of em'..lol ready to have a fun day at the zoo and maybe go to the park..(pray for me)..lol I hope you have a good day as well, talk to you later.

He had no clue..He was not happy to say the least. Good luck with the park or zoo! At least you are all doing something together. I get to fold laundry and hopefully my cousin comes over. Hes been a great support for me lately. Just glad we reconnected when we did. Well have a great day hopefully your kids AND your husband dont drive you too crazy!