I could use some suggestions and help.  My daughter is 2 and a 1/2 years old.  She has some speech and lang delays.  I started potty training about 18-20 months, bought a potty ect.  She went a few times, and then started saying "no" so we stopped.  Now we started again.  I started taking her to the potty every 1-2 hours.  Sometimes we go and other times we don't, sometimes she be wet in her diaper and we miss the boat.  She really can't say se has to go. I do have an idea when she poops, we tried that, but she went in dipaer before we got to potty.  I m not sure what I am doing.lol  Should I do every 1-2 hours take her, do underware only and use diapers at night, or is she not ready?  It seems like a lot of work, this 1-2 hour thing and using a lot of diapers....My mom and others say she is ready, and not worry about if she can tell me.  But, I just want to do the right thing.  We also are still in the crib, so we like to just get the day thing going.  It seems like she can't stay dry, its like every hour we could be in there.  Thanks

had the same problem with my son because he couldn't tell me he had to go. But, now he is able too. He is 4 yrs old and will go, but he just won't tell me (even though he can). He goes fine first thing in the morning and then first thing before bed. I guess have to keep on him through out the day. I am about to try just using underwear so, he won't like the way it feels when he is wet. The pull up thing isn't helping us at all. My daughter was potty trained at 2 yrs old. But she didn't have speech delay at all. Boys I was told are harder and let me tell you it is soooo true. Good luck..

We've been working with our son at a snails pace.  In my mind, we've not really even started, and he's 32 months now, and like you, we started around 20 months. I think it comes down to being really disciplined as the parent, and I can tell you from my perspective, that's what's slowing us down - I'm the one not disciplined.  I've heard about all kinds of different mothods to potty train, and I think it boils down to what works best for our children and their unique temprament.  There are some really simple sign language you can teach your child to use to tell you she needs to potty, that's what we've been doing with out son, and we model it for him too, by telling each other, and him, when we need to go potty, and using the signs.  We've also adopted the 'every time we change a diaper we sit on the toilet'.  Diaper off, few moments on the potty, new diaper on.  And our son, while he can say "I go poo", says "I'm hideing" when he's actually going poo, so sometimes the language/behaivor is more symbolic than literal.  He does literally go hide behind a chair when he needs to poo, which is a pretty typical behavior in toddlers and a 'sign' that they are ready to potty train.  The ability to take off their pants upon request, as well as 'sit down' upon request are other milestones that ideally are mastered when trying to potty train.  I also came across some articules that says 'average' potty training is typically mastered by age 4 to 5... which goes to show it's a real process.  Our pediatrician checked with us at age 30 months that he's out of a crib... he is. But being out of the crib is more about him seeing himself as a big kid, and not a baby, which seems to go hand-in-hand with potty training. So in all areas we've been trying to 'up the ante' of behavior that is 'grown up' or 'what big kids do'.  My newphew, who has no speech delays or other delays of any kind, was still having accidents at age 7, albit infrequint.  With girls, (I have a number of nieces), when they are ready that master it really fast... you sometimes just have to wait for them to be 'ready'.  I've also seen a suggestion that potty training is easier in the summer months, due to less clothes.

With Noah we didn't get to working super hard on it until this past summer, he turned three May.  B/c of his hearing/speech delay, we used the sign for potty.  We used undies, and after a couple accidents he realized what was going on.  I have heard from other parents that their boys didn't mind being wet and others hated it.  It really depends on your child.  If you are going to try and go every so often, do every 15 min.  Commit to it.  Don't let up.  Set your timer.  Good luck.

It was different with my daughter. She also has some emotional delays. She is Autisc. It took us a long, long time due to her other issues. She finally got it at 6. I know that sounds crazy but I believe it was due to her Autism. Anyway, we made a huge deal about it when she went. We did a sticker chart and sang and danced a potty dance. She loved the praise. She still has accidents if she's really engaged in something but rarely so we put a poise pad on her and take it off as soon as she gets to school. She is doing great. We also realied on Sign Lang. she knows sign lang. and would use her signs. She didn't really talk till 4. My son is trained and he is 3 1/2 he has been trained for 3 mths. we also did the stickers and dance with him and it worked great. They both still wear overnights they don't get up to go at night. They are very sound sleepers but once they are up they are on the potty and in underwear. Good luck. It's a long process but they do it.

I would wait!! If she's wet so often that means her bladder is not even ready to potty train. When she's going larger amounts less often then she is physically ready. Add in speech delay and I definitely say wait. My son is 3 1/2 and just started potty training. Language is now making sense, he's dry for long periods of time, and he's able to communicate effectively so he's now ready. Starting before they are ready just leads to frustration for mom and kid. There's no need to rush.

Thanks for all the advice

Thanks for all the advice