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| I haven't had it happen to me yet but I think I would have told her to mind her own business. Sounds harsh but she had no right to tell you how to raise your child. |
| posted by Terri on 07/24/2007 05:56 PM
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I have been in this situation on both ends. Those people are just jealous because they can't stay at home with their kids. Since they have never been able to stay at home, they think we do nothing all day long, but watch soap operas. I don't have time to watch tv. I am just as busy staying at home as if I worked a full time job.
Just ignore them. They just wish they had the opportunity that you do. |
| posted by Brandie on 07/24/2007 05:59 PM
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If she seriously said those things to you, I would let her boss know. That's terriable customer service and I'm sure he would want to know how this employee is treating his patients.
You can always let that bimbo know it's a lot better to stay at home with your daughter than paying some stranger $1000 a month to raise your child, that's just common sense. |
| posted by lorena on 07/24/2007 06:50 PM
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| I agree with everyone. Say whats on your mind and don't think twice about their comments, they are jealous and ignorant. |
| posted by Amanda on 07/24/2007 06:53 PM
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Jackie
im ready to scream !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DONT U DARE BE DEPRESSED cause some JEALOUS ass#@$# said that to you. Some people have alot of nerve. How dare she .Is she a child expert. I have never had anyone say anything other then how lucky I am to be a sahm mom and how lucky my son is to have his MOM !!!! raiising him. Good lord woman dont feel bad for raising YOUR child.
come on girls agree right ??????? !!! |
| posted by laura on 07/24/2007 07:06 PM
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| Thanks everyone, I do feel lucky to be able to stay home. I know a lot of moms that have to work and I feel bad for them but I always have a positive attitude toward them. I figure this woman is an idiot. I could see if she complained if Emilie were acting up but she was so quiet until the last 5 mins, tired of sitting in the stroller. Thankfully I don't need another cleaning for a while. |
| posted by on 07/24/2007 07:28 PM
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| I am a stay-at-home mom and I think it is deifinitely better than letting some stranger take care of your little one. When I was little I had to go to a daycare because my mom worked and they would just line the babies up in their carseats and leave them there all day long (only to feed them and change them every third feeding). It was disgusting and haunts me to this day. My husband and I decided that daycare was more expensive than what I would bring in if I was working (and I made pretty good dough before I decided to stay home with Aaron). Plus, there is nothing like a mother's love! Anyone who had a working mom growing up knows what I'm talking about! |
| posted by Heather on 07/24/2007 07:33 PM
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| Wow, RUDE woman!! I would have stepped on her foot on the way out! lol No, seriously, I'm a stay-at-home mother of a five year old boy, and he is the most outgoing, socia, intelligent boy ever (and I'm not just biased, other people have said so also, lol). So don't listen to a word of what these ignorant women say, when their children are older and into drugs and getting locked up because their mothers were too busy to pay them any mind, then hunt this woman down and make her feel just as bad as she made you feel that day. Where is this dentist office, anyway, lol! Just kidding. But don't be depressed. Be proud. What you're doing is very hard and very admirable. |
| posted by Rebecca on 07/24/2007 07:53 PM
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| i would have told her to mind her own beez wax. just because we stay home does not mean we do nothing or that our kids are behind. i think my daughter is a little advanced. she talks great can count to three and sometimes five why? because we are constantly taking time with her. we dont sit around and let her entertain herself all day we enteract with her.i know we have had to make sacrifices for me to stay home but it is well worth it.plus do they know the stress we are going thru at times. DONT FEEL GUILTY. |
| posted by Natasha on 07/24/2007 09:53 PM
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| I agree, I would call and make a formal complaint and then of that woman still works that I would not go back to that office. You should be proud of being a sahm, I am so happy that I have been given the opportunity to stay home and raise my son, we have given up a lot but I wouldn't change it for the world, and everyone is right this women is just jealous. |
| posted by Christy on 07/24/2007 11:28 PM
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Things like this really steam me up. How dare she say those things about your daughter. Do they not realize the very difficult decision many of us make to stay at home, particularly nowadays when it is a REAL financial sacrifice to live on one income?? My husband and I waited 8 (long to me) years to have a baby just so that we could economically save and afford for me to stay at home and raise our baby. We wanted noone else take care of him but ourselves. And why do people think it is okay to berate a woman who decides to stay at home because society places us way down on the totem pole of social status? We should be revered for what we do. We are raising constantly nurtured, loving, SOCIABLE AND ADEPT children that will definitely all be assets to this great country of ours.
My mother grew up in the 1940's in shame because she was a "bastard" child and her mother was single and had to work. She too was fired from her job as a single working mother because she had her first daughter out of wedlock. Now, that these situations are the norm (and thankfully more single working mothers are getting the equality and respect they deserve), is it now okay to chastise and create a backlash for the "new minority" of us stay at home Moms??
I hope you have your chin up after reading these replies to your posting, and know that you are satisfying your child's every development and need- which is to be with you. |
| posted by JoAnn on 07/25/2007 01:10 AM
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| I have that happen to me a lot. I use to manage 5 dental offices. My Hubby and made great money. I decided to stay home, which I have never regreated.But lady's who work would make snide coments to me. I use to not say anything and just be bumed but now I just come back to them. I am not rude but I just state my opion. Most have shut- up and have repested me. I have found that some are jelious or don't think staying home is a real job. My son is developing fine and he is very social. You stick up for what you believe in. Someone had to raise them ( and I bet it was their mom) so they could become a (fun) judgeing person. |
| posted by Karolyn on 07/25/2007 08:49 AM
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| I work part time, and i wish every day that we could afford for me to stay at home with out daughter. Don't feel bad at all, be greatful that you get to be with her so much. You will get to have all those moments of when she does something for the first time all to yourself!! That is something that no one else can give you, and no one can take those away. We can't afford for me to stay at home, so my daughter does go to a daycare (military and no family around) I was so jealous that the daycare lady got to see katie roll over for the first time. It hurt me that I couldn't be the one to see her do that. Treasure every moment you have with her and never ever EVER let anyone make you feel like less of a parent because you stay at home. You are a Better parent for staying at home and raising your child!!! |
| posted by Amanda on 07/25/2007 12:04 PM
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That sounds shocking that she was so bold. I wonder what lead her to those thoughts.
If she was an employee, it is your responsibility has a customer to write her employer a letter. Not only was her judgmentalness contributing to them losing a customer but her behavior was out of line, inappropriate and certainly unasked for.
If she was another customer, then shake it off as an attack to get you to stop doing the right thing and let it go. The more you dwell on it and it disrupts your thoughts and home then the happier the devil will be.
In either case, she obviously nuts and we should feel sorry for her. |
| posted by Tina on 07/25/2007 01:10 PM
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what everyone else has already said is right on the money! what else can i say? I nod my head vigoriously and clap my hands and give my SAHM "rah-rah" cheer. cause if we don't cheer each other on, all those jealous other mothers will get us down!
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| posted by Becky on 07/28/2007 04:01 PM
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| I can tell you right now that the lady or ladies are jealous. They wish they were able to stay home with there children. You know what finacially I am almost unable to stay home with my children but I make it work. Women like that never get me depressed because I know I am teaching my children to respect others not someone else. Having my son in day care was when he was not making progress. Children are on their own time when they want to let you know they are smart they will. I have a 3 year old who is so smart it blows my mind and then my 1 year old seems to be behind but I just tell myself one day he is going to blow me away with all the things he knows. Don't worry about it. She's happy she's healthy thats all that matters. |
| posted by charity on 07/29/2007 01:31 AM
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| Yikes--say a prayer for her. That's all I can say! Those are obviously her own insecurities that she needs to deal with. Ah, what a world! |
| posted by Briana on 07/29/2007 03:37 PM
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