the kids real mom is still in the picture and eveytime the kids com here its mommy this and mommy tat and tony- moms bf this and it gets annoying after awhile. reilley the oldest asked me why i hated his mom so much? i told him i didnt hate his mom i didntlike some of the thigns she does. it feels so weird but they feel apart of me i know there not my kids but its so hard to take that in.

The kids are doing this to get to you and make you leave. They will always feel like "Mom and Dad" should get back together to have a "normal" family. Keep doing things that they can count on to identify with you. Hmmmm that didn't make alot of sense did it. Let me tell you what I did. We played cards each time the son came over. He was pretty grouchy the first few times. So I didn't feel like playing any more. He asked, "Aren't we going to play cards?!" It was something he counted on when he came over. Pretty soon I heard he was telling his Mom and Step-Father, "Yeah, we always play cards and have snacks and I get to stay up late over there!" Find something you can do each time they come over.

but what stuff can you do with a 6 year old boy, a 4 year ol girl and a 21 month old girl. im 19 so have engery todo stuff i just dont know what kind of activities to do with them

Every time they come, go to a park. McDonalds that has a play yard is a year around thing to do. Every Saturday for lunch. They will have a toy to remember and set on a little shelf in their room. Maybe it isn't economical to go out. Build a tent in the dining room or living room and have a picnic...every time they come. My sister enjoyed having hotdogs in the treehouse every Mothers Day with her boys. She got upset when they were too old to do it anymore!!!

lol my fincee the kdis father is a manger at mcDonalds. I have tried doing crafts wih them everytime the come but they keep bringing up there mother. its like she brainwshig them!!! and i dont know it getting m upset when im trying to o something thenshe does somthing stuipd to ruin it. Likewe had the 4 year old potty trained. and the 21 old went on the ptyhere well she just puts a diaper on them. lke ow is tht helping them? and all she lets the 6 year old do is pay his video games all the time. nd the 4 eyar old waches tv like how are we suppsoe to keep them o a schdeule an teach them things when she wont evn try?

How often do you have the kids? Do you have an chance of talking to the bio mom? Does your fiance talk to her and try to work out problems? How about grandparents? Are they in the picture? They would understand that 4 yrs old is too old to be wearing diapers and maybe help with potty training.

Have you tried asking them questions about their mom? Ask them questions about themselves. Get to know them if you can. Their mommy is alot of their world and they talk about what they know. Find out more about what they know, then you have something else to talk about. Try the tent under the dining room table. That will give them something to talk about! Their mother sounds like she is lazy and doesn't really look after the kid's best interest. They will realize that when they get a little older. It's really hard to "play" with the age group you have. TURN OFF THE TV!! Keep thinking of ways to play. Sing silly songs, like "Put your right foot in, put your right foot out". I forget the name of the song, but it is something to do with little ones. Simon Says is another game. They won't get it right, but they will "learn" to play, follow "orders" and imitate what the group is doing. Put out the simple things that kids play with and develop an imagination. If you don't have blocks, let them play with your tupperware. Teach them to do somersaults or make a "bridge" by standing up and touching the floor, then let them crawl under you. Let the 6 yr old be the bridge and see who can crawl under him! My favorite game with my kids is see who can be the quietest, longest. LOL

we get them 4 days she gets them 3 days. well try to get the grandpparents more involvedwith the potty traiing. good idea:)!! and i like the idea on gettin to know them more than you. we ge thm tomrrow so i will try th brigde and simon says and let u kno howit goes