I'm a single mom, divorced two years.  I have two children, 13 and 10.  As much as I love my children and do everything to make their life comfortable and make them feel loved, I would like to meet a guy and recreate family over again...

I've tried dating men with and without children.  Somehow, I haven't had any luck meeting a guy for me in the age group I'm aiming for (44+) .

I'm attractive, 37, intelligent, fun, caring, and a giver.  For some reason I either meet guys I'm totally not attracted to or the ones I like, turn out to be total users or liars.  Why is it that I tend to attract the wrong kind of guys?  I'm open and honest from the start.  I don't want one night stands, don't want to become someone's "sex kitten".  Just want a loving, caring, partnership-type relationsip, and yes, I do want to get married again...and have a family with the right man....

Why is it so difficult?  Are there any good single guys left who want the same in live?

Hi Ivona,

I'm 34 and have a son who is 3 1/2 years old now.  I started dating a few times but none of them worked out.  I don't even beleive in finding true love anymore because I have once loved so desperately but got hurt the most.  My ex left my son and I and not showing any interest of seeing his own son. 

I don't mean to discourage you, I hope all the single moms in this website will find a good guy and recreate a family again but if it's not meant to be, we still have our children which we still have a family - a peaceful and lovely family.  Yes, we all feel lonely and helpless all the time and most people with husbands and boyfriends can't see and feel the struggles we need to get through on a daily basis.  Not to mention trying to find the right person again.  We as a single mom can only do our best one day at a time. 

It's not that your luck is not near you, I think we are all being hurt and we want to be more caution in our next relationship because we don't want to make the wrong decision not just for ourself but for our kids.  Hang it in there, my dear, let's hope for the best in 2010!