hi mama's!!!! how do you deal with loss of your freedom? how long did it take you to get used to be a full time mom? i get so tired of being just a mom. i want to do something more in my life.. i know being a mom is a very big and important job, but.. i hope you understand what i mean..

I dont think you really ever get used to it. Atleast I have not. I just try to take it day by day and use any help that I get that allows me a little freedom. Even if its only thirty minutes I take it. lol. I mean, as a parent I dont even have the freedom of thought any more. Like now my toddler is busy and I have to be conscious of his safty constantly. That makes it hard to to do simple things like make a short grocery list, pick a pair of jeans to wear, or reply to a post online lol. I try to make it easier on myself by lowering my expectations of what I can get done in a day. I just can not always accomplish the activities now that I could pre baby. I also try my best to hang with moms of kids close to his age. That way its less uncomfortable. They understand why it takes me an extra ten minutes to pack a snack bag and and extra outfit before a trip to the mall. They dont ask me to go out to clubs and functions that are not toddler friendly too often because they know more then likely its not happening. Last I vent about the loss of freedom, and then look at my little man and keep tying to intergrate fun and happiness into our new life. Plus the bright side is time still goes on and soon enough they will be in school or a little less needy and we will regain a tad bit of freedom.

My daughter is 16 months and I'm still dealing with my 'loss of freedom'!  lol

I agree with Kanisha though - make sure to take some time everyday to do something just for you.  Have someone watch the baby while you go for a walk or window shop maybe a couple days a week.  If that's not possible you can take some 'me' time after the baby is in bed.  Read or get on the computer - whatever you enjoy! I have a few Yoga DVD's that I do in the evenings after my daughter is in bed.  it helps me unwind and relax after a hectic day of work and then taking care of my daughter.  Plus, I feel like I am really doing something good for myself!

Kids are the best, but it's definitely challenging to be a MOM!

As every one has said, you don't totally get use to it. I have a 19 month old and there are days I just want to cry. It seems I don't even have my thoughts anymore. I found out about a nursery school near by so next Fall (she has to be two to attend) she will be going to that two mornings a week for a few hours - so looking forward to that!!! Maybe you can find something similar for when your boy gets a little older (look now because I hear these sort of things fill up really fast). Some gyms have free daycare so that would be a nice break too. Take your breaks when you get them and try not too beat yourself up when you are just worn out. I too am a social person by nature so it is difficult being wih someone all day every day that barely talks and wants to pretend to wash hands and drink tea all day long - can be a bit tedious. I am going back to school in the fall part-time so I think that will help with my sense of purpose. Maybe look into some adult education classes.

My advice is to join a local moms group to break up the day a bit and make sure they meet regularly (a couple times a week). It was really hard to be a stay-at-home mom for me at first but as soon as I found some other stay-at-home moms that I meshed well with, it got a ton better. Hang in there!!