i want to know why my son 1 has a lot of energy and i try to calm him down, 2 he does not want to go to bed when i tell him to, 3 he is soooo attached to me he follows me everywhere i go, 4 he hates when i leave him alone or when i go out of town with my parents? Thats why i do not go out on a date is because of him! please help.

deborah shlley

Hi Deborah,

You know I have a 16m old and he is so full of energy too I think it's just he a boy and boys are boys. I would not worry about the too much energy thing that's normal. Know that it is Christmas vacation I take my boys for a walk around our block or to the park or just put him in the car and take him for a ride.  All kids never want to go to bed my 8yr. still tries to con his way out of going to sleep it's normal.  My 16m is so attached to me also cause we are with them everyday and every minute of the day.  Try having him do activities on his own maybe get him started on something and then when you see he's interested in it move yourself away from him slowly and see if he stays entertained without you. (Try it).  With the whole dating thing has it only been you and him for a while?  If so you got to remember you are all he has and he is going to be very territorial with you it will be hard at first with dating. Just got to be patient with him he will come around. Hope that helped good luck!!!!

Hi Deborah,

Natalie had some great ideas, my name is Cheryl. I myself have a VERY active 2 1/2yr old. This cold weather and being stuck in the house is testing both of us. ;) Do you give your 1yr old a lot of sugary snacks? I've cut them out after 3, and it helped. I also cut back on the milk, juice and water I was giving him during the day. Try playing something like chase, tag...or whatever you do to really get him going. some mother's disagree with this but this is my daily routine (very important to stick to one). After he eats his dinner (if I can get him to,very picky) we play tag or hide and go seek.He gets worn down, get in our pj"s brush our teeth, pick a story then he gets to pick a movie and I set the sleep timer. He has been falling asleep to the TV or music since he was a newborn. He has always been a great sleeper. So, it's what works for you and your child, they are all different. As far as him being "very attached" Natalie hit it right on the head. You are going to have to start with small steps and don't get frustrated if it doesn't magically work right away. Hang in there hun!