i am new to the group... and i need a break.   why is alright for the father to have all the breaks and the mothers rarely get breaks?????  does this happen alot???

No, not really. I would speak with your spouse, and let him know that taking care of the kids is the responsibility of both parents. Better yet, leave him with the kids and you go out. Just go! By the time you come back, he is going to appreciate all the work you do. I did this to my husband when my son was small. I got tired of taking care of the baby,house, cooking, etc. an at home mom with no breaks at all. I took my dog and actually left! I was gone for one hour, and he was glad to see me return. He got the message. Have a talk with your significant other, he will understand, and hopefully give you a reprive here and there.

My hubby is exactly like yours marlena...yes I admit he works 2 jobs to support the family but whenever he has time at home he sleeps!! And on those rare occasions he wants to do something with any of the kids it's always my daughter never either of our sons.I've tried talking to him about it but it goes in one ear and out the other. I completely understand how you feel!! I always thought it was just me, so thank you for making me feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one going through this! I hope things get better for you!! Good Luck!!

You are not alone!  My husband does help out alot around the house as we both work.  He does laundry, dishes and even the grocery shopping.  HOWEVER, I do not get the free time that he does.  We have two girls, 14 & 12, and the 14 year old is a handful.  They prefer to do things with me because they are more like me, kind of girly-girl.  He is very outdoorsy and since he did not help develop this in them when they were little, they developed interests more similar to mine.  He goes away every fall for 8 days or so to go pheasant hunting with his brother and I cannot even get one night away.  I take care of all the homework help, problems with friends, primary displinarian, and trying to teach them life skills.

Since I do work full time, it really gets to me.  I am planning for 2010 to be different.  I am simply going to make plans with my friends and he is just going to have to deal with it!

Good luck!