Hi everyone,

I'm new to this site- does anyone want to start a facebook page? I feel like it might be more user friendly and we could have local chapters, and maybe meet up for girl's nights out! You know, on those lonely evenings when he won't be back till 1 or 2 : )

About me: I've been married to my professional musician husband for 2 years and with him for 5 before that. I'm almost 28 and am worried about our financial and emotional future. I want to have a child before I'm 32 or 33 and I worry that we will not be able to finanically afford to. Also, I have the same concerns as all of you regarding how much I have to sacrifice and have the "normal" job, with benefits, etc, and how everyone always looks down on you or outwardly insults your husband for not having a real job. This  sucks. I worry that we will grow apart because we don't get to spend enough time together... I voice all these concerns to him and try to do it without making him feel guilty, but I just don't sense the same level of concern from him....

Anyway, I like that there is a space for us to vent and worry and speak eachother's language- I think we all have stories worth sharing and unique ways that we could support each other. Also, I think we should open this up to "partners of musicians" as it might be a woman who is the musician and the husband is out on tour, or it could be a same sex marriage. 

What do you all think?

Hi Sandy.

I think a facebook page is a great idea!! I'd join. I also like the idea of 'partners of musicians'. My bf's main band has a female lead and her partner struggles as much as I do at times.

I'm 29 and have been with my professional musician boyfriend for 8 years. We don't have children, only cats. :) He is away a lot, and plays in quite a few bands doing everything from folk to jazz, bar gigs to corporate shows or festivals. His main band tours and plays Australian and internationally shows and festivals annually. He also teaches a bit of music and dabbles in some contract IT work when the music side of things are quieter. I run my own business so it makes it interesting, trying to keep our relationship fresh between long hours and many nights apart. We have our ups and downs but the important thing I try to remember is that I love him and music is his passion. He would never ask me to give up my career (which I love) so I try hard to understand the sometimes difficult requirements of his.

Look forward to getting to know you more. xx

I also think it's a great idea! And, I would love to meet anyone local for a "girl's night out"! Did you want to start it? Let us know soon.

I think it is a great idea. Any way to meet people in the same situation would be ideal.

Ok so who is going to set the facebook group up? Sandy would you like to do it and then let us all know the name or url?