Hello, I'm new to the group and I'd like to say how grateful that there's a group like this to get us through the tough times. My husband and I have been married for 7 yrs and we have a 5yr old son. My hubby has been singing most of his life, opening up for big names like Toni Braxton, Kool and tha Gang, Al B. Sure, etc. This all happened prior to us knowing each other, but in the last 3yrs, he's with an already established band(locally) from the 80's that have resurfaced and getting pretty big now. He's the lead singer and is mostly gone. Now, before my hubby, I've never been with a musician and had no clue what it would really be like, even though I had and idea, nothing could prepare me for the lifestyle. Although, he's a very trustworthy person, I did have trust issues, emotionally, from my past which he and I have dealt and are still dealing with, by his pastor who married us. But, my struggles are still within myself and my very vivid mind. After going to his many gigs and seeing the women flock and act towards him and watching the reaction he has to do to keep and grow his following, I can't help but feel insecure about it. I know he loves me and our family and would do anything for us, but how can I show understanding, patience and support when he's rarely at home, and when I see him at his gigs, he's talking and hugging women a bit too much and too tired or disinterested in being really invovled with me and our son?
My true question is, how do you continue to love and want to be with your man and also separating yourself from what his musical lifestyle is? Someone told me once, the wives who truly love their husbands, want their husbands home all the time. The wives that don't, had to lose their true feelings of love and part of themselves in order to handle his absence and lifestyle. That is very scary to me. What do you think? |
