Hey!  My name is Amanda.  I just found this group online and figured it would be perfect for me.  I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years.  He is a musician and travels every Wednesday-Sunday playing shows around the southeast.  I am not able to go with him like I used to because I now have a job, I am in school, and we have a puppy together...which I have to take care of when he is gone.  When he gets back from traveling each week, he spends his time home playing music for churches.  He tries his hardest to make time for me.  He usually sees me more than he sees his own family.  I have found it to be very difficult to adapt to his lifestyle and I am running out of ideas.  He has told me that it takes a very special kind of woman to be in a relationship with a musician and that he thinks I have the ability to do it, but it scares me because it is something new for me.  I am not worried at all about cheating.  I just hate him being gone.  I feel like he lives a double-life.  When he is gone, he is playing late shows and sleeping all day.  Then when he comes home, he is tired, but tries to push through it for my sake.  I don't want to give up on him because I love him.  Any advice?

Hi Amanda,

I'm new as well and going through a similar situation with my hubby of 7 yrs. He to told me he thinks I have the ability to handle his lifestyle, but truth is, some days I think I can and others i'm not so sure. It's way harder than I thought it would be and although my hubby has been patient and understanding as much as he could, it's challenging. I try to take each day one at a time and keep myself busy with work, friends, and our 5 yr old son. We do have great communication, which I think is key to having a chance of survival. Being a Christian and walking that path God has set for me and living to please Him, has helped tremendously! Find what you love and concentrate on it, keep open lines of communication, and love your man the best way you can! Hope this helps! 

Thank you so much for the encouraging words!  I am going to try out keeping myself busy!  Good luck to you and your husband!