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| I have a 7 year old who is very sweet. The problem is that he has a really bad temper! If he does not accept an answer or if you say no, he tends to start yelling, stomping. He has thrown things. He has said he doesn't like this family...nobody likes him. I have tried so many things. I have sat and talked with him. He can calm down...sometimes he will get right back where he left off. I don't like to spank, but I have. That hasn't worked much. Time out..having him cool off. Nothing seems to work! He also has a hard time accepting responsibilty for his actions. I have talked to him about how God expects him to behave, about His love and mercy. On the flip side, Matthew is very affectionate..loves to cuddle and his teachers and soccer coach always say how well behaved and helpful he is. Thank you for any advice! |
| Posted by rebecca on 07/17/2007 01:39 PM
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Well i will say u are very lucky in that he is well behaved in school and soccer that is a plus and that shows that maybe it is something just at home that is bothing him. Does he get enogh attention from u do u think??
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| posted by laura on 07/17/2007 01:59 PM
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| Most of it started around a year ago when he was being bullied at school, but nobody there did anything about it. He is the middle child also. A younger brother to his 2 older brothers, and a big brother to his 2 younger sisters. He does get attention. My husband and I have times set aside for each individual one and family time. Also, Matthew and I have a trip to a train museum coming alone. |
| posted by rebecca on 07/17/2007 02:34 PM
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| Im sorry. i dont have any advice to give you. I just wanted to say i hope it gets better. *Big Hug* |
| posted by katie on 07/17/2007 03:07 PM
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sounds like u are doing a fine job then Rebecca, hey no one said parenting was a sinch right ?? LOL
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| posted by laura on 07/17/2007 06:38 PM
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| Have you tried taking him to a conselor, someone he can talk to. It sounds like he has something on his mind and does not know how to express it. My friends daughter had a similar problem. After a long time dealing with it she took her to a conselor. They only went for a month or two, but it really helped her daughter deal with her emotions. Good Luck! |
| posted by Karolyn on 07/18/2007 11:06 AM
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| thank you all for your advice. I have been looking for a counselor for him. I have also asked some close friends to come over and pray over him with me. |
| posted by rebecca on 07/27/2007 09:42 AM
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You know it is funny because it sounds like and exact version of my 8 yr old. He just turned 8. Same problem with his temper and yet very helpful and compassionate. Very cuddly and loveable. we have done the same things with him. Prayed with him and teaching him how God would have him handle his anger. I am seeing progress. I think it takes time and consitency on our end. Taking time to talk with them and know their heart. He has been an exhausting child for me and yet such a blessing. it is so interesting how the temper probelm is there adn yet that sweet loveable side as well. A teacher told me one day a girl fell down and was crying and David went over and just rubbed her back and told her it was ok and it was so sweet. I use both spankigs ad time-outs as well depending on each situation. I will pray for you and you pray for me. There is a specail place here for them .As long as we help them deal with the temper now they will be ok later.
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| posted by Desiree on 08/21/2007 10:13 AM
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| My son is 5 years old and I have run into the same problem. What I did is tell my son to use words calmly to expess his feelings. If he doesn't do that I ignore him. That sounds mean I know. But he has improved. He'll say I feel mad because... That help me to help him. I just let him know it's okay to express his feelings, but he needs to do it nicely. I hope that helps. |
| posted by Melissa on 08/27/2007 06:58 PM
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