I was just wondering, does any of you other sahms feel like you are torn btween wanting to stay home with and raise your children but at the sametime your decision is not supported by your husband /significant other, so you feel guilty for staying home but also know that if you had a full time job,the housework,kids and everything you do now would remain your resposibility so I am so undecided. All I hear now a days is not ours anymore just things like its his money, house etcand how easy I have it by being able to stay home. Should I go back to work even though I really believe my place is here at home raising my girls? Help please!!! Or just give me your opinion even if its a bad one. I know he is not mister wonderful already so nothing will hurt my feelings. Thanks Angel

Ask yourself and your husband what would your children want? Sometimes they are our best decision makers. How will their lives change?? Write down your day from waking up to going to sleep and show it to him- all ten pages of it. ;) Show him the real costs of daycare/babysitting/after-school etc.

 Best of luck

I think it is great if you can afford to be home with your children. There really is alot of expenses working outside the home. You may sit down a calculate clothes, fuel, daycare, and most companies always has parties that you have to contribute to. Unless you already have a pretty good career that pays well.... alot of mommies are finding that it just isn't worth the money after expenses.

There are work at home opportunities out there and you may consider one that suits you. I work from home with a service based company and its really cool because it pays Residual Income. That is month after month for work I do today. I can work my business from my computer which makes it great for mommies. There is no products to sell. If you would like to look into what I do visit www.iboplus.com/rgodair

Good Luck

Roxanne 

I think the best way you and your "better" half can come to  decision whether or not you should go back to work is hit him in the wallet. My husband and I talked about it, at first he was against the idea of me going back to work and I wanted to..funny huh? I didn't want my son to develop seperation anxiety by being always with me, so that if I did go out he wouldn't freak out. I went back to work, then the bills came. After about 8 mo. my husband asked that I quit working and stay at home.

What helped him come to that decision was the cost of me working. By the time the extra gas money, daycare, I only brought home an extra $200 a month. That's working full time with only one child to pay daycare for.  He figured that he pull a few extra hours and that would cover the money we would lose by me staying at home.

Now for you, with multiple children the cost of daycare 50 hours a week(that's 10 hours a day) would be anywhere from $260 to $400 or more a week.(I'm figuring you have 2 girls) that's alot of money. Now most day care places have you bring in extra sheet, diaper cloths, at least 10 diapers, 3 bottles, extra clothes.....etc. You have to label everything even the bottles and cups. We looked at that, the time away from my husband and child, and the fact he was missing my cooking when he was home and we both decided to stay home.

We still have "discussions" about his/our money and property, but usually it resolves and he is trying to stop saying "mine" versus "ours" And of course we have the debate on who has it harder. I won. While I acknowledged the fact he has a dangerous and difficult job, he understands that even though I get to stay home, I don't get vacations or days off. If he goes on and on about it, do what I did. One morning I left before everyone woke up, left a note on the table saying I was taking the day off and he can see what I do 24/7, and that I'd be back after dinner. Which he had to cook not have delivered. It didn't last, by 4pm he was calling saying he gave in and asked me to come home.

It was great! So now we both have hard jobs he says.

Hello Angel,

I have been lucky enough to have a husband to support me.  The one thing in this world that I wanted to be was a full time mom.  A few years ago I was a single mom.  I HAD to work to support my son and I.  It was hard, daycare is very expensive.  When I met my husband he had no children.  We got married had a baby this past June and reality hit, again.  I was pretty much working to pay for daycare.  My husband was going to have to give me money to get back and forth to work.  That was rediculas.  Why was I working?  I have a hard time now thinking I'm not contributing, but in reality, I do a lot.  Just doesn't feel like a lot because I enjoy it.  So to help myself feel like I'm contributing financially, I am looking for a part-time nights/weekends.  Maybe I could bring in enough money to pay at least 1 bill.

I wouldn't feel guilty for wanting to be home with your children.  Like posted before, there are a lot of expenses to working outside the home.  A lot of time lost too.  You miss out on a lot.  Maybe your husband would be open to you guys sitting down and making a pros and cons list.

Good Luck!

I am in the same boat of you my bf never sees what i do only what i dont and thinks is the easiest thing in the world to take care of a baby all day and the house work and thinks the ,money he makes is his to but if i went back to work i would still be doing everything around the house. So i really have no advice i am in the same boat as ypu does anyone have advice for me?

You ladies should really look into work at home opportunities. I work with AmeriPlan and it is a service based company. We have an untold of number of moms just as yourselves working successfully from home. All you need is a phone and computer.

If you have only 10 hours a week you can work this business. The services that we offer at AmeriPlan are Discount plans that help people save money on things like dental, vision, prescription, chiropractic, healthcare, ancillary, hospital advocacy programs, diabetic programs, prescription programs, and nurseline.

In addition to the healthcare plans we also have two programs that help people save money on things they purchase and do everyday, like shopping, recreation, automotive, and dining.

The second program is called Secure Net that includes ID Theft Protection, National Child ID, Family Legal Plan, Roadside Assistance and Financial Services. 

You can also become a recruiter and help other people work from home as well.

The awesome thing about this business is you can build a residual income. You get paid a commission each and every month for everyone you enroll.... for as long as they are on the programs.

When you visit my website be sure to check out the success stories and the video's.

www.iboplus.com/rgodair

www.freedomathometeam.com/rgodair

I would love to help you get started working from home... and you get free training immediately.

I have been wanting to start working from home but dont know what to do and what is legite and what is just a scam. I dont have lots of money to front to start a business that would never take off and then i be out of all that money.

Hi Alexandria,

I know what you mean about knowing what is legit or a scam. My daughter has been with AmeriPlan for over 2 years now and I have been with them for 15 months. I have tried alot of work from home companies and all of them were legit BUT they required selling merchandise, holding parties, and delivery.

When I heard about AmeriPlan it was music to my ears.... finally a service based company. No parties, no catalogs, no delivery, or no sales tax to worry with. 

The BEST part is the residual income. My youngest daughter had a complicated pregnancy and I was unable to work my business because she was in the hospital for several weeks. That is when I realized the value of residual income. Although I wasn't working I still received my monthly check, and it grows as long as my business grows.

If you would like to get started with AmeriPlan you can start for $50 and you will get your own ecommerce websites that are ready for you to start using. You will recieve free online training, and continual mentoring from myself as well as the other leaders on the team.

Think about how many people you personally know that are uninsured, underinsured or that eat out, travel, and shop. I just recently saved $100 on my auto insurance through our AmeriPlan auto link. Most of our providers are well known companies such as Walgreens, Pearl Vision, Walmart, and Kroger just to name a few.

As an Independent Business Owner with AmeriPlan your family will recieve free dental, vision, prescription, and chiropractic. You will also recieve corporate discounts at Office Depot, Dell Computer, Sprint, Auto World and parts, just to name a few. You will also receive an Accidental Death and Dismemberment coverage that grows as your business builds. There is also many opportunities to earn bonuses, and trips as well.

If you would like to get started or have questions feel free to email me at rgodair@ameriplan.net

Roxanne