Angela,
I am sorry to hear this, I have been there and it is not fun, until you decide to change the situation it will not get better, well let me tell you what I did and maybe it will help you too. I do not know you and do not know if you are in church or have a relationship with God but when I turned my life completely over to him my life has changed drastically, I am now in a loving relationship with my new husband and there are guys out there who do not mentally and/or physically abuse but until you receive the Lord into your heart and trust that he will take care of you then things will not get any better, and if you truly love the one you are with God is the only one who can change him you can not so I will be praying for you and your family that God will change your situation. God can do amazing things, I have seen his power transform my life and make it better than I could imagine. I am not saying once you have God in your life it will all be perfect but when you know God on a personal level he is going to help you through the hard times carring you. When I was going through my divorce I was not living the life I knew I should be and was making lots of bad choices and I went to a women of faith conference and one of the ladies was talking about asking God to help with specific things in our lives and she was focusing on Philippians 4:4-13 which states "Rejoice in the Lord always, again I say Rejoice! Let all men know and preceive and recognize your unselfishness. The Lord is near. Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God. And God's peace which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. For the rest, brethern, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things (fix your minds on them) Practice what you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, and model your way of living on it, and the God of peace will be with you. I was made very happy in the Lord that now you have revived your interest in my welfare after so long a time; you were indeed thinking of me, but you h ad no opportunity to show it. Not that I am implying that I was in any personal want, for I have learned to be content in whatever state I am. I know how to be abased and live humbly in straitened circumstances and I know also how to enjoy plenty and live in abundance. I have learned in any and all circumstances the secret of facing everysituation, whether well-fed or going hungry, having a sufficiency and enough to spare or going without and being in want. I have strenght for all things in Christ Who empowers me."
This may be a lot to take in but to sum it up we can ask God for things we want or think we need but we have to also be content where we are sometimes and wait on God to change the situation, but while we wait continue to praise Him for everything and pray about anything you want to do and make sure it is God's will. God is a loving God and does not like seeing his children in painful situations but most of the time we have made our choices whether it be good or bad, God gives us a choice to love Him or not he will not force us to but wants everyone to have a personal relationship with him. It is not hard to do this all you have to do is Believe that Jesus, God's son died for our sins and made you whole, Ask Jesus to come into your heart and God will begin to work in your life and help you make wise decisions and not foolish ones, he will get you out of your current situation by either ending the relationship or changing both of your hearts. I will be in prayer for you that God moves in you life to make it everything he has planned for you. God knows every mistake we will make and if we give our life completely to Him, put God first, Family second and everthing else last you will live a full and wonderful life. If you need to talk or need help with becoming saved please call me my number is 304-573-5709 and I will do what I can to help. Remember we are all sinners some of us are just saved sinners.
Your friend in Christ,
Tonya Mills |
