Hi Tracey, I can sympathize with what you are going thru. My son who is soon to be 17 has done the same thing to me. My son does not work, and myhusband works out of town, leaving me alone all week to fend by myself. And, no, my husband does not like to be interrupted at work.
For some reason, he decides to treat his friends parents better than I. Other parents commend me on how attentive he is, washing the dishes, vacumming here and there. I was shocked!
What I did, I called the parents of his friends. I asked them for help. I told the mom what was going on in my home and asked that they speak with him, or have their son speak to my son. It worked. Granted, my son was seriously pissed off at me, but, it made him realize that this little "secret" of his was not going to be kept silent.
We also went to counseling at our church. When you approach your family about this, they will tell you that you need the help, not them. Go yourself first to counseling, then make an arrangement to take your son and hopefully your husband. Counseling for us, was a life saver.
Just last weekend, my son went to a friends house. I called around 4:00pm to see if he was coming home for dinner. My son does not have a cell phone, so I called the kids home. His father lied to me about his whereabouts, and when I finally got a hold of my son, my son tries to tell me to stop calling, he is 17 and makes his own decisions. I blew a "gasket", called the father that lied to me, gave him a piece of my mind, and told my son that if plans on making his own decision he does not have a home to come to. I will not allow a 17 year old dictate to me under my roof. He came home at 10:00pm, and nice and sweet.
In closing, this is a tough time for them. Trying to figure out which direction they are going or what they are going to do in their life. I am not making excuses, I too, am trying to understand their behavior. I hope this helps. |
