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Hi everyone, I'm fairly new to the group, but I have a huge question. Well my daughter is 6 months old and we also care for my father who has dementia. My husband and I have not been able to be alone since before I was pregnant. We have friends who are a couple that have offered to babysit while they're sleeping so that Brett and I can I have a night out. We think it's important for us but I'm scared. Can you believe that? What do we do, what do we talk about? Anyone have any advice?
Thanks
jennie |
| Posted by jennie on 07/15/2007 12:31 AM
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Just be sure to not be around too much booze . . lol.
My daughter was 5 months at our anniversary and my parents came down to watch her . . .it was also st. patty's day and we had to to much because we wanted so badly to be young and fun again! we learned pretty quickly!
I was nervous too . . . like, did I look pretty enough, like I did when we were dating? I think you'll find stuff to talk about! we also do . . . and a glass of wine, each, or to, does help to ease things and get some romance started up!
Go someplace (a new restaurant, park, movie, etc) that you've both been talking about wishing you could go ... and go! that's a conversation starter right there!
Have fun! and report back! |
| posted by Rochelle on 07/15/2007 08:37 AM
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| I wouldn't even worry about it girl! Just have fun, there will be plenty to talk about (you'll probably end up talking about the baby most of the time even if you try not to). Just relax and have FUN! What a great gift you are recieving. :) |
| posted by Briana on 07/15/2007 03:32 PM
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Hi Jennie,
That must be a difficult situation that your in but, definitely take any help that is offered to you! you deserve a break and some alone time with your hubby, and try not to talk about home life because you have to remember that's what you're temporarily escaping. Well, I hope you go and have fun! |
| posted by Sarah on 07/15/2007 06:39 PM
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| My babies are 3 and 1. The oldest two teens live out of town (college) so in order for us to even run together with out the babies we wait until our teen son's curfew to do that. As far as a date- he offered to keeo them while we went to dinner, I was so worriesd we were home in an hour. So if you have close friends who you trust-- enjoy it! |
| posted by Tilwanja on 07/16/2007 09:40 AM
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Hi Jennie,
Dating your husband will save your marriage and your sanity. It is not healthy to place your babies above your relationship fulltime.
Read the newspaper, magazine or web news. List 3 to 5 subjects to discuss and try to make them about different subjects. You could even have them be connected to subjects you two used to share. Don't forget to include something he is interested in. For ex. Is he a mechanic of some sort? Look up that under google. Find topics you could ask him questions about.
Date, flirt and flatter. It will be worth its weight in gold. I was taught...if you don't flirt with your man, someone else will. |
| posted by Tina on 07/16/2007 03:04 PM
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remember why you fell in love with him in the first place. think about the good things from the past, and see what he looks forward to in the future.
take your friends up on the offer if you trust them. it's never easy leaving your child, it's just something you have to do to keep your sanity.
you don't always have to go out either (it is nice though). my husband and i always have date night on thursdays. sometimes we go out, but most of the time we put the kids to bed early and play a game, do a puzzle, or watch a movie. whatever we feel like. i usually make a small dessert just for the two of us! |
| posted by Hollie on 07/16/2007 04:33 PM
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| Take every opportunity to go out just the two of you; I'd also like to encourage you and your husband to find small things you can do every week at least to create "connecting" moments between the two of you. My man and I have started doing this since we moved to a new city and don't know anyone who can babysit our son. We were spoiled with ample babysitters in our old town, so it's been a hard transition. But, we've started to take turns on weeks and spend no more than $10 thinking up something little to do with each other. Sometimes with baby, sometimes after he goes to bed. Last week, my huband got us DQ and we went to a local park at dusk and took a long slow stroll (with baby) just talking over things. This week is my week, and I plan to have a pizza delivered and play cards or a board game together after baby goes down. Simple, cheap,...but strategically together time. It's vital. Good luck and have fun! |
| posted by Kelly on 07/17/2007 02:31 PM
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