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| If it's possible maybe only allow him to have it at nap time and bed time. If he is in a crib, maybe he could leave the pacifer in there before getting out. |
| posted by Amanda on 07/13/2007 10:05 PM
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| This is a tough one, I have asked many parents how they do it. Limiting the time should help. I had a mom tell me that she had her daughter throw it away (she kept one hidden just in case) so that when the baby asked for it she reminded her that it went into the garbage. I fear that I will have the same problem soon. |
| posted by on 07/13/2007 10:54 PM
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| it's hard but you gotta let them cry it out or whatever they have to do. if you make the decision to take it away, you just have to be strong and just get rid of them. he will get over it, and it is ok for him to be sad and process that loss as part of life. i promise it will be harder on you than it will be on him |
| posted by kelly on 07/13/2007 11:50 PM
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Hi Amy,
My son always had his pacifier when he was just a few months old, then went to only needing it when he went to sleep. I only let him have it in his crib and thats where it stays all day. Try giving it to him just in the crib for now and see how that works out then gradually take it out for naps and only have it in there for bedtime. Thats my next step to take it away for naps with my son who is almost 10 months old. Good Luck, taking away something that they can count on is never easy. |
| posted by Stacy on 07/14/2007 07:36 AM
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Thanks, I kind of know I just have to do it, but its easier when you hear other people say it to.
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| posted by amy on 07/14/2007 09:02 AM
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| thank god i never had to do a pacifier for both of my kids , i see what you have to do best of luck |
| posted by jodi on 07/14/2007 09:32 AM
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| Amy- what I did for my daughter and she loved them, was to cut holes in them and she lost the sucking power. Then I just played like it was broke and she lost interest in sucking on it. Although some people dont like pacifiers, they dont really hurt them. They still need to suck. When they start TALKING with it in their mouths is when the problems come about. She had to sit and just not run around with it in her mouth at all times. I was scared and the first nite especially, I thought this child is NEVER going to go to sleep and to my amazment, she went right off to sleep. Asked a few times down the road and I just reminded her of how they were broke. Good luck and remember do what will make momma happy as well, you may decide he can have it longer. |
| posted by Eve on 07/14/2007 10:51 AM
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Thanks Eve,
I read that somewhere, where you just start to cut it down a little at at time. But you cut holes in it? So the rubber wont like come off will it? That's what I was scared of that it would come off in little pieces or something. He is talking some and we have to take it out of his mouth to understand him. Please let me know. Thanks again |
| posted by amy on 07/14/2007 11:26 AM
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The rubber is mighty strong and it did not shred. I just cut a slice in it- right down the middle. They instantly know it is different and dont much like it. I would definately tell him he is not to talk with it in his mouth and take it then. They will surprise you and be more able to adapt than you would think. Hang in there. It was funny my daughter found an old pacifier in some box a short while ago (she is now 4 1/2) and was walking around with it in her mouth, it was funny.
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| posted by Eve on 07/14/2007 01:13 PM
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| Well we just got rid of our daughters binkie, she is close to two and a half! The Binkie Fairy came to our house!! So maybe use something other then the binkie fairy, but what happened at our house is she got to pick out a toy, and that night the binkie fairy came and took the binkie to all the babies! He maybe a little young to understand but you never know, kids are smarter then most people take them for! Good luck!!! But cold turkey is the best way!!! My advise also is throw them away once you do it because you will be tempted to give it to him! |
| posted by Jeanette on 07/14/2007 01:42 PM
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| This is hard my daughteris18 mionths and i am going thru the same thing. |
| posted by Natasha on 07/14/2007 05:48 PM
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| Jeanette, that is such a cute idea! I will have to remember that one! |
| posted by Amanda on 07/14/2007 06:41 PM
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Hey Jeanette
that is what I did also and he did great I went cold turkey at least a month ago and he hasnt crying for it since. He was so good about it......I was the one who was a nervous wreak.
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| posted by laura on 07/14/2007 07:18 PM
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| one thing all the moms should think about, are the kids to little to have these securities taken away already? Just my own personal opinion.... 17 months and 18 months- who cares, just let them have the things. They feel safe and everybody gets sleep. Just a thought. |
| posted by Eve on 07/14/2007 08:31 PM
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| Eve, I understand your point, that young children need security objects. The problem is the older a child gets, the harder it is to break the habit. Give him a stuffed animal or special blanket as a security object instead. Pacifiers can interfere with speech development if children walk around with them during the day. If you can't limit it to bedtime, then cold turkey is the only way to go. He will get over it a lot easier than you think- as someone said before, it will be harder on you. But you can do it, and so can he. |
| posted by Marcia on 07/14/2007 08:56 PM
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| My, I'm so happy I put all binkies away when my son was about 6 months old. But he never was really interested, he mostly played with them and could cry with it in his mouth, it didn't calm him down at all. But we have another medium calming down, he loves herbal teas and now also water diluted juice works greatly. Whenever he's upset or unhappy and cries, You just have to give him something to drink. He goes to sleep withouth binky, sometimes just fells asleep when feeding and somethimes cries a little. But I think the earlier You do it the easier it is. |
| posted by Sylwia on 07/14/2007 08:56 PM
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| My daughter is 10 mo.old and I am starting to take her paci away at her morning nap. She still gets it for her afternoon nap and at bedtime. She also has a blankie that she falls asleep on as well. I'm only taking her paci away for one nap a day. She usually spits it out or it falls out when she sleeps. She also throws it out of her crib. She never bothers with it during the day except at naptime and bedtime. When she cries we usually give her a bottle of formula followed by a bottle of water. |
| posted by Lis on 07/15/2007 12:05 AM
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| I have done this with most of my kids at his age. Wait until Christmas and then leave it out for "Santa" to take. In exchange for the dummy, Santa leaves a present. I think at 17mths a dummy is still ok for bedtime. |
| posted by Shanon on 07/15/2007 02:08 AM
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| See I was the one that was freaking out about what would happen, and Sophie was fine!! She still has her puppy which is a little TY puppy thing! But I think when she is trying to talk to you with that THING hanging out of her mouth! The thing that got to me was I was noticing it in pictures!! So that was the line for me! I wish you all luck, and people can say what they want but it is your child!!!!! REMEMBER THAT!! |
| posted by Jeanette on 07/15/2007 08:30 AM
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Jeanette,
You are right about the pictures, I take lots of pictures and 1/2 of them he has his paci. I have started limiting it this week to nap and bedtimes and he is doing pretty well. I don't think I want to take it cold turkey because he is so attached. If he weren't so attached I would take it away completely. Thanks for everyones input, it much appreciated.
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| posted by amy on 07/15/2007 04:47 PM
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amy
dont be so afraid these kids are soooooooo resilant u wouldnt believe ! Like i said my son was using it only at nap and bedtime for 2 years I was scared to death to go cold turkey but I did and he was cranky for like 2 minutes for 2 nights and that was it, He hasnt said the word since I cold turkied a month ago.
Good luck in your choice.
L |
| posted by laura on 07/15/2007 07:32 PM
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| I was so freaked about the cold turkey and it was the best thing ever!! I was more freaked out then she was! |
| posted by Jeanette on 07/15/2007 08:25 PM
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| At least its a pacifer and not his thumb. My niece got rid of her pacifiers at 2, my sister took her to build a bear and she placed her favorite pacifier inside the bear and stiched it up. Now its time to get my nephew who didn't like the pacifier to stop sucking his thumb. Good luck Amy |
| posted by Monica on 07/15/2007 10:01 PM
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| Monica that is a really cute idea. We actually have one of those Build a Bears close to us. Maybe we will try that. Yeah everyone says you can get rid of the paci but not the thumb. We tried when he was a few months old to take the paci from him and he started sucking his thumb so we gave it back to him. |
| posted by amy on 07/15/2007 10:04 PM
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| This was my 3rd child to ween off, but my youngest now.My daughter was about 2 years old on her birthday I told her she was a big girl now, and I too did it cold turkey, it took 3 nights CONTINUIOUS, then it never was a problem. The binkie does come in handy when teething but 2 year mollars are the most painful,after that I see binkies as a habit formed by more then a child then it seems to be habit. The worst thing I have seen is a child, in public 3-4 still with a binkie, and a parent or grandparent allowing that.That just screams out that they don't want to hear that child,At # or 4 years of age. If I can say this that I thought was real inportant to me at my child's first cleaning, at 2. Dentist say as soon as teeth are pushing out completely to toss the BINKIE, for the sake of tooth growth. I hope this helps from a mom of 3. |
| posted by Trace on 07/16/2007 10:47 PM
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We learned the hard way. My MIL insisted I give our daughter a paci to got to bed. One day I saw blood on her shet while she was sleeping, panic and called 911. Where we live if ambulance is called for child under 12 an officer automatically arrives. He picked her up and discovered it was from the paci, turned sidways, cut her mouth and mixed with drool. Well he told the ambulance guys what it was but I still had to go to hospital, by law. So I spent 4hrs being checked out for abuse while they made my baby remain naked in the hallway of the hospital on a gurney for the enitre time while I was periodically questioned by 6 different staff personal.
It was a horrible experience and I swore I'd never go through it again. The officer stopped by the hospital and gave a second report sticking up for me and they finally let us go. The officer said he had numerous experiences with stupid pacifiers and told my husband and I they were the worst things invented for babies. He then comforted us by saying we were obviously loving parents and wouldn't need to depend on the plastic to be good ones.
So we threw them away and after 3 days she didn't even remember them.
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| posted by Tina on 07/17/2007 08:38 AM
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