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| Well, I grew up in Florida. After leaving Florida, I went into the military after high schhol. After 4 years in the military, I settled in Arizona. My life was not so great in Florida so I just stated in Florida. I have no family here, not many friends. It is just me and my little daughter who is 4 months old next Friday. I would like to have 1 more baby someday. People look down on me for being a single mother but I can provide for my daughter, people says she is going to be miessed u with no father, and I wonder sometimes? |
| Posted by lyn on 07/13/2007 09:20 PM
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I know how you feel. I have a 3 month old daughter. The father was not a good man. He was very angry all the time and extremely mentally abusive to me. When I was 10 weeks pregnant, I made the decision to leave him. I went through a period where I wouldnt talk to him but then decided to try to keep things civil for the sake of the baby. I invited him to the obgyn appointment when I was finding out the sex of the baby. My appointment was at 2 and he never showed up. I got phone calls from him later screaming at me that I supposedly changed the appointment. From then on I knew we would be better off without him.
Days after I had my little Sienna, Luke( the father) called my dad and was very angry that I never called him when I had my baby. Weeks after that he wrote me a letter calling me selfish and that a baby girl needs her daddy. He made me feel very guilty though I stood strong. That was the last I've heard from him.
Financially, I could use the child support but here in AZ if the father pays support he automatically gets partial custody whice I'm terrified of.
Every day I wake up scared that today will be the day that he tries to take her away from me.
Anyways, I heard a saying once "Any man can be a father but it takes someone really special to be a daddy".
I think its a good quote to keep in mind.
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| posted by Reannen on 08/27/2007 01:35 PM
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Hi, Reannen!
I just went through the child support process, and if you go through The division of child support, they do ot give him custody he has to take you to court. I live in Arizona too. It would be hard for him to get custody. |
| posted by lyn on 09/03/2007 12:49 AM
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| thanks, that really comforts me :) where in arizona do you live? |
| posted by Reannen on 09/03/2007 11:59 AM
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Hi!
I live in Goodyear. |
| posted by lyn on 09/04/2007 09:02 PM
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| Hi Lyn I live in Philly I had a three year relationship with a childhood sweetheart, who I later wound up pregnant with his child. At first he was against it but later excepted it. That was my first pregnancy at 27. He was there for me financially but everything else I had to go through alone he didn't even join me for any of my appointments. He was there in body for the birth of our daughter. After giving birth I was in a bad state of depression and mistook sex for comfort and didn't protect myself , and I just found out that Iam 3mths pregnant again with his child and this time he told me if I have the baby he wants nothing to do with it. So I left him and now Iam living with a relative but Iam unsure if I have made the right choice because I know I cannot go through with an abortion and I want to keep the baby because I'll love it no matter what but he says Iam ruining his life |
| posted by Netta on 10/26/2007 04:20 PM
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Hi,
Netta welcome. Please do not be offended by what I am going to say but, he can go to hell! I mean ruining "his life" What about you? He is not the one that has to go to the abortion clinic and "loose" the baby, so he is selfish. Forget him and be happy. You may not want to move away from your family but there are options out there. For example, in Arizona you can get a good place and get government assisstance. Maybe you could swap cildcare with a friend. I wish I had a friend to do that with for when I go back to teaching Elementary. I hope no one takes offnse to this but I will not let a man keep me from having a baby. As a matter of fact, My daughter is 7 months old, in a few years I am having another baby with or without a man. I have been doing it on my own, and its been pretty good. My child is taken cared of better than most couples. So girl go ahead and have that baby! I will e-mail you my personal e-mail address is if need to talk. |
| posted by lyn on 11/03/2007 11:56 AM
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