Definitely see if you can add some rice cereal to his milk to make sure he's not hungry during the night. After that you have to work on breaking the middle of the night habit. Even if he's not hungry anymore, at this point he'll most likely continue to wake up because of the habit. I think the decreasing the amount of milk slowly is a great idea, but as Suzanne mentioned, once you get down to zero you absolutely have to let him cry it out. Go in every five minutes to reassure him, but once you decided to stop the cycle, DO NOT GIVE IN. Keep at it if it kills you for as long as it takes(hopefully only a night or two, sometimes a lot longer). If you give in and give him a bottle after he cries for a long time, then he'll know if he cries long enough he'll get what he wants. If you stick with it he'll end up falling asleep exhausted from the crying for one, two, three nights, but then he'll learn that there is no point in waking and crying cause he won't get anything. It sounds cruel, but it's not. They(as any other being), are creatures of habit. You just have to break the habit.
My daughter got used to falling asleep while nursing, and if I tried to move her she would wake up crying. I had to lay there with her every night for up to two hours to make sure she is fast asleep before I would try to move her to her crib. When I decided to wean her off I was dreading trying to get her to fall asleep in her bed without the breast more than the actual weaning her away from breastfeeding.
It took literally just two nights of crying and begging to be held at the breast, but then it was done. She got used to going in her bed with her doll and going to sleep onm her own so fast that I was amazed. She is now 20 months and she has been sleeping through the night since two months and going to bed on her own since I weaned her at 14 months. Even if she wakes up breefly during the night she soothes herself back to sleep because I let her figure it out on her own.
Anyway, sorry about the lengthy message, but I wanted to tell you my experience so you know it works.
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