I've talked to a sleep doula, she says when I start sleep training I need to completely stop breastfeeding at night.  what is he gets hungry? should I just let him cry??  Anyways, we're sleep training because I've always nursed him at night, he's 11 months now, I feel kinda like I'm the only mother who has nursed this long, I don't think I'm ready to give up breastfeeding at night, I've heard it can greatly decrease you milk flow, I wouldn't mind if he only got up a few times a night, but sometimes it's like 10 times a night. Not sure what to do....

Wow, 10 times a night?  And here I am complaining because my son wakes sometimes twice a night to nurse!  Do you feed him often during the day?  I've read that if you space their feedings more during the day, say every 3 hours instead of every 2, then they will get used to eating less often during the night.  My son is going to be 6 months old in a couple of days and up until introducing rice cereal 2 wks ago he has been exclusively breastfed.  On the nights when for whatever reason he wakes multiple times, I don't always respond by feeding, so as not to train him to be comforted only by a feeding.  Have you tried just comforting him at night without bringing him to the breast?  I would try NOT feeding every second waking episode and see how he does.  It has worked for my son, and he's a BIG boy who enjoys eating!  Hope this helps.

fwiw, i think when he wakes up 10 times at night, he's either teething or going thru a growth spurt.  those times exhausted the heck out of me but i have learned the best thing in the world for a nursing mom - i nurse lying down.  that way i can nurse, and get some much needed rest.  i nurse on demand and i must be a jersey cow as my little one will be 3 in oct.  no, i'm not a breastfeeding nazi.  i strongly believe that moms should do what is right for them and not what others say is right for them because they have not walked in my shoes.  try nursing lying down.  for me, mastering that was like the holy grail, lol.  i used to get up, get the baby from the crib, sit w/the boppy and nurse.  that was exhausting.  i learned how to nurse lying down and i get much more rest.  for me, i won't let them cry it out.  it just pains me too much and i think it pains them more.  trust me, i don't have illusions that i'm a perfect mom but i try my best and try to do what i feel is best for my kids.  sometimes i get it right and sometimes i miss but when i miss, i try a better way the next time.  good luck and if you don't feel ready to stop, then don't.  you know what is best for you and your baby.  {{hugs}}} - cathy