Ok so here we go AGAIN!!!!!
First off for those who don't know, I share full custody with my ex. From the time she was a little more than a year old she has been one week at my house and one week at her dad house. So now she is seven, her dad just got married in June and they moved from his house to his new wife's house. Abigail has started to become more introverted (wanting to be by herself). She went to a friends sleep over birthday party this past weekend, and the mother told me that she wasn't the normal girl that she is all the other times. She wanted to play by herself and not get her nails and hair done like the other girls...blah blah blah.....
Well tonight she had cheer-leading practice and it is just misty rain outside and they practice under a shelter type thing. She is always very excited to go, well tonight I went to practice at 630 and she wasn't there. I called her dad and he said that she isn't going because it is raining and that she doesn't want to go. (dad has never wanted her to be a cheerleader because he feels it is dumb and it doesn't take talent). So I wonder if dad just talked her into not going or if she really didn't want to go.
At my house she is not an only child. My husband and I have a almost four year old, and they fight like cats and dogs. At her dads she is an only child and very much treated like one. I refuse to do so and I have explained several times that she is not an only child and that in this house she will not be treated as such. She will need to learn to share. Dad will do things with her that my husband and I just can't do. (Disney World for spring break) Expensive Christmas Presents..... My son will cry every-time she goes and if he wakes up and she is not here he will just cry for her. I have to call her dads so that he can talk to her. My husband thinks I should file for full custody and just let him have her every other weekend. It was fine before when my son was little and didn't understand really that his sister wasn't home, but now it will break your heart. He tells her dad that he can't take her...it is awful. I just wonder if a judge will give me full custody after all this time of going one week on, one week off. I think now that she is older too, it is starting to affect her more than it did. What to do... Please help, even if you want to tell me that I'm dumb for letting my daughter do the week on week off....it really wasn't me, it was a male judge that said 70% off men have nothing to do with their children after a divorce, and because he was fighting for her and she was only a year old the judge felt that he should be able to be a part of her life more than just a weekend dad....
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