my son LT is 21 months old and he isnt talking very much, he can say about 10-15 words but a friend of mine has a 22 month old son who can say a quite a bit of sentences. She has been mentioning to me for the last month that LT might be autistic, I called my dr and he said not necassarily, LT is just not an early talker. Should i be concerned? What can I do to help him talk? Ive bought flash cards and all kinds of books and games for him to play, and im a SAHM so I work with him alot. What am I doing wrong?

I dont think your doing anything wrong!  I think he might just start talking more later.  My daughter talks alot. some sentences and some just a word or two. and she is 22 months old. but alot of her words aren't super clear.  My husband looks at me for translations alot of the times. Don't be discouraged.  One question though. Does he use a binky alot. Does he have it in his mouth during the day?   I have had to break my daughter of any daytime us with hers because her words were forming with a binky in her mouth and I think that might be why some of her words are so unclear.  If so try cutting back on the binky, it might help.

My daughter was the same, saying maybe 20 words by her 2nd bday.  Signing about 30 more.

About a month later, getting worried, I bought the Baby Babble Dvds.  I showed them to her for about a week.Also I started  telling her whenver she woke up and started her day, she needed to say more words when she wanted things, I told her I would help her, but she needed to try.  I told her "If you can say it, you can have it" in the beginning.  Wouldn't you know, cookie, up (like to pick her up), and bunny (her fave toy) were some of the clearest words she learned in a hurry.

Here it is just a couple more months later, and she's saying around 150 words spontaneously, putting them together, and will repeat even more words on command.  She still does a few signs, but we've replaced many of them with words.

I am still making a conscious effort to make her ask for things.  Also I put a few things she likes, out of reach so she has to ask for them.  I used to try so hard to anticipate her needs, trying to be so tuned-in to her, that I did her a disservice and she had no need to really learn. 

I just wanted to add, we would give her TONS of praise and encouragement with every word she said, even the ones she had already been saying.  We made sort of a game of whenever she'd say Mama, I'd pick her up and kiss her cheek or her neck until she laughed, and we'd make a huge deal about it.

Also it sounds silly but at the end of the day when I'm putting her to bed, I try to emphasize all the new words she said, and I tell her how proud we are of her.

Thank you guys for your response! He hasnt had a binky since he was 3 months old, he never took to it. Everytime he points at something he wants Ill say you want....and say whatever it is i think hes pointing at. But he gets SO frustrated! I guess i will just have to be patient with him! Thanks for you help!

Yeah, my daughter gets so easily frustrated thats why it has been so hard to be firm with her.  I found a website that said a little frustration can help push them, in a good way.  With her I have to be careful not to push her over the line.  That's why such heavy praise has been beneficial.  Every attempt is met with some sort of praise.  it makes her want to "show off" her new skills. 

In the beginning though, we had to start with simple, easy to say words (b- , m-, d-  words were easiest for her).  Ball, bear, moon, duck, etc. 

I tend to talk fast, so I have had to slow myself down, and break words down for her more.  It seems to help.