Hey gals, I think Ive probably only ever posted about my mother, and here is yet ANOTHER post about her!
First of all, I have biracial children (black & white) We cut my oldest sons hair when he was 2, and its pretty much always been short since then. We may let it grow for several months and get a little fro going on, but eventually cut it. My 4 yr old DD just had her first 'trim' about 6-9 months ago. Then I have my twins who are a boy and girl. They will be 3 next month and neither have ever had their hair cut. My twin Boy has been mistaken for a girl a lot because his hair is soo long. Since he is mixed, his hair is not really kinky or 'nappy' as a black persons afro would be, but depending on how it is combed/picked, washed, etc, it can look a lot different.
So, anyway, I (being the MOTHER) have 'trimmed' his hair once before just because sometimes it gets soo knotty. It was a very little bit and no one noticed. My boyfriend did not want to cut his hair. He wants it to be dreadlocks, but he's tried and it doesnt work in his hair. Ive told him we should cut it because its all baby hair on the ends and we should cut it and see what kind of texture it is when it grows back and he refused. We make these decisions together, so Ive just gone with it. No big deal.
So, the other day their dad bought a new product for the kids hair (we have been trying different things every once in a while so we can find something that works well for them) I washed and conditioned their hair, and my twin son's hair looked really nice and I was actually able to get a wide-tooth comb through it and it showed his curls. So, I was in the room doing something with one of the other children, and my son was in the room with my mom. A few minutes later he's in the room with me and says "Oma cut my hair" I said "WHAT?" cuz he had only been in the room for a minute and I didnt really have time to notice and it was wet, so not AS noticeable. So she says, I just trimmed a little off the top and it looked uneven so I took some off the sides too.
LIVID! Thats about the only word that would fit the situation. So, yesterday my boyfriend (his DAD) sees him and right away says, "why does his hair look so squished up?" (because the sides were waay shorter than the top, and very obvious once it dried) I told him what happened and he was PISSED! beyond pissed actually! So, he shaved our sons hair last night because my mother jacked it up sooo bad!
My son doesnt even look like the same person! He is VERY cute, he has a beautiful face, but his hair is gone! We've always joked that the only thing about the twins that makes them look like twins is their hair (since they are different genders) And now they look nothing alike.
So, my vent is about the fact that my mother has NO boundaries and thinks she can do whatever she wants to my kids as if they are hers. Why the he!! would she do something like that without consulting me?? well, because she KNEW I would say NO and she wanted to do it, so she did it. Does anyone elses mom do disrespectful or inconsiderate things to you or your kids?? If you made it this far, thanks for reading! She jus drives me INSANE! |
