Hello - I just joined this group!  I have 3 biracial daughters - 8, 3, and 10 months.  I just started browsing your latest discussion re: hair - It is hard to find products that work ...  One product I LOVE LOVE LOVE is Paul Mitchell "the cream"  It is a leave in conditioner but also gives the hair some hold.  It can be expensive ($12-$13 for one large tube) but if you have a Sally's beauty supply center, they make a generic one for around $6.  I am looking forward to chatting with you all!