Sorry you have to go through the stepfamily initiation. We've all been there. It took about 7 years before ours settled into a family. That may not sound very encouraging, but the truth is, if you can out last them, you and your spouse will eventually have the life that you want.
Your stepdaughter is still really young and some of her behavior is typical, regardless of your step relationship. Be consistent with her, don't disparage her mother and bide your time.
If she doesn't live with you full time, talk to your husband about how to manage her time with you during visitations. Your best bet is to not try to play a parental role during these difficult pre-teen years. She is a child, and she will learn and grow with time.
She clearly wants more attention from her father, and she may need it. But that shouldn't come at your expense. She should always treat you with respect and courtesy.
I know this isn't really helpful, but it is realistic. Keep in mind, at least you only have one!
Angie |
