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| Hi... I know babies tend to only want Mommy, but i thought this happened closer to like 9 mos or so... My 4 month old, will only stay with me. I have to work, and trying to get a sitter has been a pain, she will not go to them, let them hold her nothing, if they do she just screams and cries... She does this with my hubby too, she will sit with him unhappily for a minute and then if i leave the room, the hysterics start... My parents came to meet her and it was the same thing...water works.... I am scared this will only get worse, and i am exhausetd...need a break! ANy ideas/advice would be greatly appreciated :) |
| Posted by Michelle on 07/10/2007 09:56 AM
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My daughter was like this too, and at the same age. I was a SAHM at the time, so my mom blamed me for spending too much time with her. It's just a phase babies go through though. I would always tell my daughter when I was leaving and kiss her goodbye. She would still cry. It was hard, but I left anyway (sometimes crying myself). I would always call 5 minutes after I left and it didn't matter who she was with, her daddy or my parents, she was fine by then. Your daughter may take a little longer or a little less time to stop crying, but she will stop. Your samity and your personal needs are very important too. You need to get away!!!
The important thing to remember is that it is not your fault she is like this. It is a normal progression of development. Don't apologize for her wanting to be with you. Also, don't be afraid to walk away from her while she is crying and let someone else take care of her for a while. Although it's hard on both of you, it will be good for both of you too. Good luck. |
| posted by Cinda on 07/10/2007 10:38 AM
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| Typo: sanity |
| posted by Cinda on 07/10/2007 10:39 AM
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| Try not to be afraid to walk away while she is crying. You may want to start out slow and gradually let the time she is crying be longer and longer that way she will know you are coming back.Ex. firsttime let her cry 2min. then get her next time alittle longer. then she will realize mommy will be back. Hang in there. |
| posted by Natasha on 07/10/2007 04:24 PM
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| My son also had a similar phase and the doc said it is people preference and totally "normal" She said if its hysterics take him when you can, but if it is wimpering or crying let hubby or other person stay the course. If your family and sitters are willing i agree its in everyones best interest for you to have your down time. I also feel children respond to our cues, since this phase must be so difficult she may feel it....perhaps accepting, normalizing, and minimizing the situation may help. Hope that makes sense! |
| posted by Lori on 07/10/2007 09:27 PM
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