Hello:

I am a single mother with a 22 year old son.  Ladies, please let me know if this group is more for women with much younger children.  I have never done this before, and I just was looking on-line for a support group.  I am having a very hard time right now.  I am trying to end a 18 year relationship and I hope to talk to women about some ways to try to get closer to my son.  He is still living here at home, and spends all his free time alone in his room.  I want to talk to him, ask if he is ok, if he wants to ever talk, but I don't really know what to say.   My father suffers from severe depression and so does my older sister and myself.  I worry my son also has depression issues, but I don't know how to approach these questions.  I want to ask why he doesn't date or go out with friends, but I feel he may act like I am intruding.  His father lives in our city, but only calls him about once a year, if that.  I worry that might have affected him more then I realize, but again, how do you say, "Hi, how was your day ?? Are you sad that your dad never sees you ???" Thank you for listening. If anyone has older children and has experienced any thing like I am, I would love any advise.