my daughter is 3 weeks old, she normally sleeps threw the night only waking up a couple times to feed and then goes straight back to sleep, But lately we have been having trouble getting her to sleep the first sleep at night. We will feed her but she wont take all her bottle then we try to give her the rest and she doesn't want anything to do with it, and we'll change her dipper and make sure she doesn't have bubbles in her tummy........ everything you could possibly think of we try. But shell just sit there and cry for no reason. Is there some thing we are over looking or something as new parents?? dose anyone have any suggestions. Or should we do what everyone said and just let her cry?? help please lol.

Hi Amy...welcome to motherhood, LOL. Let me start by saying I have never been the "cry it out" type, but some Moms are. It breaks my heart to hear my daughter cry and certainly at 3 weeks I would never do that. In my own opinion 3 weeks is to young for that. Babies need to know that you are there for them. This is how they learn trust...espcially that young. With my daughter when she was that young we found that we needed to swaddle her. This way she felt snug and comforted. She also had a reflex problem with flailing her arms a lot and this would wake her up. If she is hungry she will eat. Does she spit up a lot? It could be an acid reflux issue.

It's so hard when they are so little and being a new Mom you are so cautious...it's normal, trust me. It's so hard when they can't tell you what the problem is. Try not to worry to much. I know...easier said than done. Maybe bring it up to her Pediatrician and see what they say.

I think 3 weeks is way too young to let her cry it out.  When my baby was that age we used techniques from The Happiest Baby on the Block like swaddling and the noise machine.  We would swaddle her, turn her white noise on and feed her and she would be out!  Don't worry too much - they change all the time at this age.  Just when you think you've got it all figured out they change again!  Good luck.

Hi Amy,

Oh, how I have felt your pain.  I have a 7 month old, and he cried a lot at night. And during the day. He basically hated and fought any and all sleep until he was about 4 months old.  I think the best advice I got is that sometimes babies just cry. And my (albeit very limited) experience has been that it really doesn't matter how much I try to figure out what the heck is going on with the baby; sometimes they'll just cry every day/night at the same time for a few days/weeks, and then just as soon as it started, it stops. I also had good results with Happiest Baby on the Block suggestions.  PUtting our baby in his car seat on a running dryer worked wonders for us.  Swaddling also worked miracles.  But when something new came up, like I said, it would usually stop just as soon as it started for no apparent reason, regardless of how many different things we tried. 

I've read in countless places that 3 weeks is definitely too young to let babies cry it out.  They just don't understand what's going on yet; and they won't get anything positive from it.

All I can say is IT GETS BETTER! As they get older, they sleep better and things get a little more consistent and predictable.  Stress on "a little".   This is a very tough part (at least it was for us); but it gets so much better.  GOOD LUCK!

I had the same problem with my daughter about 2-3 weeks. She was a good sleeper (except to get up to eat) until 2-3 weeks. My ped. suggested giving her grape water. My daughter was constipated and nothing would put her down for that first sleep.

I definitaly don't beleive crying it out is a good idea at this age. 3 weeks is too young to understand why they aren't being helped.

Ask your family and friends to take a turn and rock/walk/sing/sling whatever the baby until you get past this stage. I think I would have gone crazy if my family had not volunteered to take a 10-15 min turn during this "colic fits"

Hopefully it won't last long, it was only 6 days for us then Alyssa when back to putting herself down for her sleep.

If your a new mom, please don't think it's you or that someone else could do better. That was my biggest problem, I just knew it was me and everyone else would be able to handle it better.