my 17 yr old daughter is in a residential home for many issues.when she was 13 i had her dignosed with bi-polar. the last 6 yrs has been a rough road with her.since the age of 11 she has busted my windows out, put holes in my walls when she was angry with me cuz i said she couldnt hang out with a shady friend. or what ever i said no to she would get violent.by time she was 13 she started to threaten me physical harm. we have been in a few physical fights and the one we got into when she was 15 she pulled out a knife on me.of course i had her arrested.she had been in juvi many times for demstic violence on me n her siblings.she also caught an auto theft charge but it got dropped to joy ridding n didnt do no time in juvi nor any probation.iv called the police on her more times then i can count.i was so tired of calling them i got to the point i ended up letting her do what ever cuz i didnt want to fight with her nor could i cuz i was pregnant oh just a note the fight we got into when she pulled the knife on me i was pregnant and i didnt know it.she got into drinking and doing drugs. i tried all the advice people told me like take her phone,computor etc..... but it didnt matter cuz she did not value anything if i took it she'll leave and get another one off someone off the street. i didnt want to call the police on her no more cuz it didnt work the police would come and tell me there was nothin they could do about it.or if she did go to court for something she did they will most of the time drop the charges and the judge would warn her if she came back into her court office she'll throw the book at her then 2 weeks shes back and the same thing will happen and another warning. it was just rediculous.so since the courts wasnt doing anything it made her think she could do what ever n i couldnt do nothin about it.well she is now in a residential home they have her on her meds. in the past she would refuse to take her meds but now she has no choice to. she is begging to come home but i told her she cant come home till she coroperats with the program fully this time cuz she was in one before and she faked her way thru it.when she got back from that one she went right back to her old ways.she is trying hard this time but shes askin to come home after 2 months but she needs more time to work on her issues before she turns 18 which wont be until febuary 24th,10 hopefully she'll get every thing she needs by that time.well thanks for reading my story ill update when there has been some changes.

Dear Love,

I read your post, I have had a few posts and when I read your letter I thought This is the suff I litereally dream of at mights, see my daughter is 14 she is going on 15 in July the past year she has pulled so stupid stuff, like sneaking out , getting caught after curfew and smoking. She of cource got a ticket and had to appear in court in which she was ordered court supervision and a whoppin 10 hours of community service at her discretion  but due before June 22 or she will be in trouble. So after all that we go on with our lives I figure she is old enought o take responsibity  and make sure she reports to court house her choosen place to work her hours off. but she doesnt so I get a letter in the male that says she is not compliance, so I handed her the phone to call and fix the situation.  Just  when I think everything is back on track last Friday Kaylei is acting strange, so I know she is up to something, I brought it to her attention and aske her "are you up to something" she replies " no mom I m in enough trouble I would not do anything to jeopardize my situation that I am in right now." Well I knew she was full of shit!!!!!!  But I walked away as she is supposedly going to bed, about an hour passed I heard some noise upstairs and went up to see who left the stereo on and find my two little ones still up playing and NO KAYLEI!!!!!!  So I get in my car and go looking for her and no luck so I decide that's it Im going home locking the doors calling her Dad and I'm not letting her back in.  Well when I get home. Shes Back and in her room and in her pj's as if she never done anything at all. I stood at the bottom of the stairs  I screamed at her , grounded her and said when dad gets home from work we will deal with this all together. I went to bed. At 3:30a.m. my husband gets home from work I couldn't get ahold of him so at this point he had no idea what had happened earlier that night. He comes to the room and said " why did you leave the front door open?" I said I didn't a gained my senses and said Well it s probably our daughter sneaking out again and told him the story of earlier . he went up to her room and sure enough she was gone again!  I completely lost it !!!!!! I called the police and they came over , they went looking  for her I locked the doors thinking shell be back and Shes not coming in. I went to bed a couple hours later after waiting up for her . I  wake up at 7 from a night mare that my daughter is being raped. hysterically run around the house knowing she never came home went upstairs and my son is sitting on his bed crying, I asked him what was wrong he said  " she gone mommy" and handed me a letter that she wrote him and I found another on her bed to me and the rest of the family that she has ran away because she cant handle all the drama  and that she is in a safe place and don't call the cops cause it will only make it worse. " I paced back and forth not wanting to wake my husband and decide I have to call the cops and report her missing this time , so I called and the officer came back to my house  to get the information. After all this and a ton of phone calls I finally found who she was with but his parents where covering for the both of them and said that my daughter need to be evaluated for abuse I flippen bought showed her what abuse was , one thing I have never done was abused my children and in times when they did need a spanking generally didn't and later to regret that that probably why kids are the way they are these days because they need a good old fashion spanking like we got when we were kids. Any ways I get a phone in the midst of all this from my step daughter  who says someone just dropped my daughter off at  her house so I went there to pick her with an escort from the police. I get there the police talks to her and describes to her what it will be like if she does this again and  we leave.  Its definitely not over and I know this is only the beginning so Now what do I do ??????