Hi! Im in a really awkward position and could use some advice. My daughter's father and I split when she was just 6 months old. She is now turning 2 and things seem to be getting a bit more complicated. See, he moved on right away and has been w/ his girlfriend now for 1yr and 1/2. Recently we have been "fooling around" and leaves to go home to her: (

He says he still loves me, but is in a very hard position. He just cant leave her, she has done nothing but good for him. Please HELP!

Well comming from a woman who's fiance cheated, etc. I guess the question to ask is more of if he's fooling around with you while he's with another what makes you think he won't do it to you? (if he hasn't already?) Also Is he really telling you the truth, or just something sweet to keep you do what you are doing with him? I know every part of you wants to believe and it just feels so good to hear it, it's so hard to even think about rejecting this wonderful feeling.  From experience they'll they you anything to get what they want, and make it sound so nice, but always step back and look on the outside of the situation and really look at the situation emotionally disconnected. Only you can really see what the situation really is. Be carefull of you and your babys hearts:D Hope this helps.

Your fellow Mamma, Nicki  

what do you want explained.....that he's using you, or that things aren't ever going to change as long as you allow him to?  I think you know the answer here.  Think of how you would want your daughter to act someday.  Grow up, start setting a good example for her, and set some boundaries before you end up pregnant again. 

I agree with the other two responses. My husband cheated on my when our son was about one year old. Finally, after 8 months, he admitted to cheating before he left and not after like he told me. Like the other woman said, they will say anything to get what they want and also to not make themselves look like you know whats. What's important right now is you and your daughter. Believe me, I know the only thing you want right now is to be a family and it's terrible to see it torn apart. You wish anything could put it back together. I completely understand. However, if he came back, ask yourself, would things ever be the same again? Could you ever trust him every time he walked out the door? And every time he leaves you to go to her, what makes you think he's not getting it on with her too? Sorry, I know that sucks to hear, but really. It sounds like he's a coward and can't step up to the plate to be a real man and father.  Keep telling yourself you deserve better. I know it's hard. I know. Try to find strength and peace for you and your daughter.

As a man whose wife cheated on him... you should stop... You are being used.. The question is.. do you think you are worth more then that? Additionally what kind of example are you setting for your child. Be better then that..