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| Hello everyone. Have any of you had to deal with the death of your spouse/parent to your child? My husband (my 5 year old daughter's father) passed away suddenly a year and a half ago and I still feel like every day is a struggle. She talks about him all of the time and says "Goodnight Daddy" to his picture every night before she goes to bed. I to this day feel guilty of his death and I feel like I was the one who took him away from her because he committed suicide a week after I left him. I feel like some days she has so much anger and frustration possibly because of what happened and she doesn't know what to do with it so she acts out. There's just some days where I feel so overwhelmed by it all (I'm a stay-at-home mom with her) and I don't know what to do. It's hard because we moved to Louisiana a year ago so we also don't have any family or friends out here so I get no help. I can't drop her off at Grandma's or her aunts if I want to just get away for a couple of hours and take a break. Am I alone or is there anyone out there going through this too???? |
| Posted by Dayna on 07/06/2007 07:48 PM
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i'm not going through what you are, but i wanted to let you know that i'll be praying. honestly, i think counseling is in order for both of you. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS ACTIONS. he responded to the situation, but that was entirely his choice. obviously, many many men survive when their wives leave.
do you have to stay in louisiana? is there any way you could move back near family and friends? i lost three children (miscarriage) and i know i really needed my family. can you find someone to babysit? are you active in anything? church, pta, etc? |
| posted by Christina on 07/06/2007 09:09 PM
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I have not experienced this, but if you ever need to talk I am here.
Brigette |
| posted by Brigette on 07/09/2007 12:20 PM
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What a selfish thing for him to do! I'm sorry that you & your daughter have had to survive this.
This is a different situation but dealing with death nonetheless. My dad (my daughter grandpa) died almost 2 years ago (when she was almost 3), she still talks to him & sings songs about him and looks at his picture pretty much daily. In my opinion, I feel it has helped her deal with his death and talking about him makes her happy. I would first suggest that you encourage her to remember him and then I woul suggest some counseling for you & your daughter (you need to deal with the guilt you are feeling - but shouldn't be carrying around). I hope this helps. |
| posted by Lindsey on 07/09/2007 04:14 PM
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Dear Dayna, The death of a parent for a young child is often beyond their comprehension. Your also are having great difficulty getting a healthy handle on this tragedy. You've been candid in acknowledging that having moved away from your family and friends has made resolving the complications from your husband's death even more difficult.
There is too much "between the lines" for me to suggest anything other than you getting on your knees and praying to God for Him to reveal the truth about what you must do, first for the health of your daughter, then for your own health.
If you will ask God for the truth to be revealed to you, and you accept the truth, even though it may not be an easy truth, the truth will set you, and your daughter, free from what torments you. Then you will be able to enjoy a peace that passes all understanding and, perhaps for the first time, experience true joy.
I pray that in some small way what I've share may encourage you to look forward to tomorrow and renew your hope for having a joyful relationship with your daughter. May your day be one of unexpected blessing and grace.
GTG - Sincerely, Garry |
| posted by Garry on 07/11/2007 04:19 PM
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I have not experienced this either. However, I am praying for you and your daughter know that I have heard your story. Maybe some counseling would help and I know that what has helped me in the past is getting some guidance from a priest, pastor, rabbi, or whatever you feel comfortable.
I will be keeping you all in my prayers. |
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