Ladies I am at a loss, not only with my kids but my marriage and my whole life!  To make a long story short my husband and I never took the time to stay a 'couple' because we focused on our kids so much.  Now that we have realized we need to be a 'couple' again we have started trying to meet other couples and spend some time away from the kids.  

We have searched high and low for a sitter but no luck.  I had 6 or 7 girls get in touch with me about babysitting and now none of them will respond when I need a sitter.  Without a sitter my husband and I don't have the time we need with other adults or time to focus on our failing marriage.  Neither of us has a family to turn to so that's not an option, our neighbors are in their 80's and 90's so that's not a choice either.

All of this has really made me frustrated and unhappy.  I'm lonely, sad, depressed (and I don't want meds!!), scared...and everything in between.  I just want the old 'us' back and I don't know how to change it.  I'm trying to be a good wife and mother but all of these issues are causing me to hate my life and the path I have chosen.  I love my children but is that all I have to look forward to for the next 18 years!?

Things are getting so bad in our marriage that there is no intimacy, the only time we talk is when it's about the kids, his job, the weather or my bitching about my disobedient children.  He has started getting the wandering eye and has made sexual comments about some of the women he works with.  He is pulling away from me big time and I don't know how to fix it without help.  I'm really worried that if something doesn't change and soon we are going to be another statistic!

HELP!!!!

if u live near tacoma wa,i could babysit! im in the same boat but we are trying to fix it.if u want to chat.message me

Unfortunately I live in Nebraska but you have no idea how much I appreciate the offer.  I'm so desperate I would be willing to fly to WA just to let you babysit!  :o)   I'm thinking that's about as desperate as one person can get...isn't life just grand!!

Thanks again for the offer!

I joined a playgroup through meetup.com and it is wonderful. There are playdates for the kids, moms night out, couples night out even dads night out. Some of the moms even do a babysitting co-op. Maybe you could find a group that fits you. Good Luck, I hope things get better :)