I feel like I'm alone allll the time.  My husband works nights and sleeps during the day.  He has a bad seizures problem so needs to get a loads more sleep then most.  I have a 6 year old that is a challenge and a 6 month old that over all is a great baby he just doesn't like to sleep.

I don't make friends very well and I feel so alone even though I'm not. Anny suggestion's???

check out www.meetup.com for a playgroup in your area...  some time with you & the baby and a few Mom's may be nice!  We have lots of moms with babies...  they come to socialize/

I definitely understand where you are coming from, I am in alomost the same boat, my husband also works nights and sleeps days, I have three kids thought, 9,11 and 20 months, the older boys are in school, so they are not here much, and they are from my first marriage, so on the weekends they go to their dad's and on Mondays when they come home they have to be deprogrammed to follow the rules again, I think he lets them do anything they want. Also like you the baby doesn't like to sleep. I agree with the other lady who posted, you should find a playgroup, or go to a local park, or jungle gym, get out of the house and keep yourself busy, go out and try to meet other people who have the same interest as you, find a hobby you can do with the baby, it will all make you feel much better and not so alone. It can also give you the adult companionship you are looking for. LIke you  I feel alone alot, I look at my husband who usually gets up in time to eat and go back to work and wonder why he has to sleep so much too. I worked nights for near 10 years and made it on almost no sleep most of the time, and I learned how to function well around the kids schedule, but different people are different, and not all people can handle that so we just have to figure out how to make the best out of our situations. Sometimes figuring out how and what to do so we don't feel alone is definately the hardest part. If you can do some of these things, though trust me I know from experience, sometimes sitting on the park bench talking to other parents who may be perfect strangers can be the best medicine..

Thanks Tonya and Sandi.  Very good ideas from both.  I enjoy going to the park with the kids and yes strangers can be a very good medicine :)

I am in a lot worse situation. My husband drives a truck long distance, so he's gone for a week or so at a time, comes home for a day or two and then leaves again. Most of the time I feel like a single mother who gets an alimony check. But, unlike you, I don't feel alone, I just hate that I have to do everything with a baby in tow. Even going and buying milk.

What I did was on this very website I looked for a playgroup in my area, but nothing popped up. So I started my own playgroup. It has taken a few months(since November'08), but it is really picking up. There are three of us who have gotten together a few times and are already becoming friends, and now we are getting more members interested because they see the activity on the group page. So far we had an Easter Egg Hunt at one member's house, a playdate at my house, little trips to the mall, trip to the zoo this week, we are working on a playdate at a different mamber's house, an all day cookout at a park where we'll bring a camping tent so kids can nap on and off during the day, we'll grill burgers and hotdogs and play games.

Like someone mentioned above, also try meetup.com, but if nothing pops up, just start your own group.

Now I feel like I need to plan my time well because there are so many things to do. Also try story time at your local library (u can meet other moms there), with the weather getting nicer, grab your kids and go walking with the stroller and the other child can ride a bike. It will get you out of the house and get you back in shape.

I hope you will be able to get some ideas from all this. Good luck.

Thanks I don't feel so bad now, thanks for the ideas.  I wouldn't think of starting my own group. :)

Why not? It's not hard. They give you the format and the tools. It's almost the same procedure as when you made your page on here, with adding your picture and info about yourself. All you have to do is try to find people and get them to join. After you have one or two people you can ask one of them to take over the actual group page if you don't like to deal with that. The point is there are a lot of people who are looking for a group to join and there isn't always one in their area. So if you start one, it will give all those people a place to meet.

Check out my group here to see how easy it is:

http://www.raisingthem.com/groups/view/102509/OH/North_Olmsted/Stay

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TRY IT!!  I also started a playgroup on meetup.com 5 months ago & we have 142 Moms!!  CLEARLY there was a need!  I scheduled the 1st few things at a local park (when & where my son & I would go anyway)...  now people do the same thing (but schedule it thru me or one of my 4 asst organizers) so it doesn't feel like a "job".  I have met amazing women  & my son has friends & we have options every day!  You pay for the site, but they'll give you a refund after 30 days if you arent happy.  If you charge $10 per person...  you only need 15 people to pay for the whole year!  ($72 every 6 months or $20 monthly).  I only charge $5/year...  we are going to have a big party in Nov when we are 1 year old with all of the extra $$!  It REALLY is easy :)

You see? It's not hard and you will never feel alone again.lol

Also, if you don't want to pay, just do it on here, on Raisingthem and it's totally free.

I can totally relate to this feeling of being alone. My husband is often away for long periods ( 6 months plus ) with the military and I'm at home with my three month old son.  A lot of my friends have moved away and the one's that I have here are single with no kids..so it's hard to relate. I've found myself having to meet all new friends.

I was happy to have found my local Meet Up mommy group.  They meet once a week and take advantage of the fun tourist attractions that our city has, as well as parks and beaches etc. It's great fun for everyone. So, I've met some people there...

I've also been amazed how easy it is to meet new people, just by taking the stroller to the park. I've found that when you become a mom, suddenly you're part of this exclusive club...and moms love to talk to other moms... So, don't be afraid to set your own coffee meet up with one of the moms you might meet at the park.  You'd be surprised what lovely people you might meet.

i can understand were u are coming from i have a 2 year old dd and my husband works all different hours right now he is on nights. i am a stay at home mom, i have no friends at all out side of my family and marriage. his family hates me and everything i do in their eyes is bad and everytime i get a new friends and they find out about them they find someway to bad mouth me to them and it ruins my friendship, i would love to have friends to talk to about problems i am having and about everyday life but i can never keep them, so i have pertty much giving up on ever having any friends. insted i focus my life on taking care of my daughter and teaching her new things everyday, she has a speech problem so she requires a little more work but the nights are very lonely for me. i find my self talking to myself or surfing the web trying to finds ways to make myself better and help my daughter. then during the day i can talk to my husband when he wakes up but other then that i am by myself. i guess after so long it becomes your everyday life but the feeling never goes away for wanting a friend.

Hey My husband works nights as well, He's A Tow Truck Driver! We have a lot in common except for the seizures but, See My husband wil work 12 hour shifts he goes in at 7 and gets home at 7 and then sleeps untill 6 eats takes a crap and shower and then goes back to work Its like a routine We only have one car so i am stuck at home all day I have a 3 year old and a 7 month old, I completly understand how you feel, you see i am a very organized person my house is spotless And i have dinner on the table at 6 everynight The kids are in the bath at 6:30 and in bed at 7 by the time that i have time alone with him he's already at work. I feel like i do everything to run the house and i just have a sugar daddy that pays the bills but if i ask to have some time to myself he rubs stuff in my face like " Yeah, you can go but take your own money !" well for one Youasked me to be a stay at home mom to raise OUR kids so i dont make money i have a law degree and dont even use it! I cant go anwhere without my kids not even the bathroom or the shower. I have no friends because i cant go out and make friends Im tired and i get aggrevated and im only 26 im still young what the heck! So believe me hunny I know But hey it's the sacrifice that we make for our kids and when they get older and look back they'll know that mommy was always there ! Good luck with all your endeavours and if you live in florida around orlando we should get together you know whenever i do get a car!!!! lol

I know how you feel. The problem that I have is that everything is getting worse, and I am becoming more reclusive- so much so that I haven't even been to my parent's house in 4 months. I am spiraling downward. Going to the store is unthinkable for me. I have a 4 year old daughter who is also very opinionated and way too smart. I was a Spanish teacher; therefore, she is already speaking Spanish as well. My son is 18 months. I had to spend 5 weeks on bed rest in the hospital while pregnant with him because I almost bled to death in my third trimester due to placenta previa. I think I may have a little post traumatic stress from all of that, and am not doing well. My husband has to do all of the cooking and grocery trips... How bad is that?
With all of that being said, if you find it hard to get out, use this site and others to find a good freind who will come to you!! Your house... I  am still paralyzed and cannot get out, but met a good friend via raising them. If this is your case as well, I hope you can also find a good friend that will come to you with her kids. I wish you all the best. I would certainly meet up with you, but I am in Texas. Hang in there and I hope you are doing better than I am...
Oh and also, I found a book at the used book store entitled 702 Easy Science Projects, so when I feel bad for my daughter due to my issues, I pull that book out and we do projects... Take care...

Wow. and I thought I was the only one that felt alone during the day. My husband doesn't work nights but he does work a 12 hour shift during the day and I'm at home with my 3 kids. 1, 4 and 12. I find myself watching the clack and waiting for him to come home. I don't make friends very well and the few I have are old friends from school. Ever since I had my daughter last year I've become a total homebody. I go to the store when I absolutely have to, but the thought of going out somewhere with my kids by myself makes me really anxious. Right after a had my daughter, going into a store gave me a complete panic attack, even when I had someone else with me. It was really wierd. Even now, I have friends or family come to my house and save most trips out for the weekends when my husband can go with me. I even find myself resenting my husband sometimes for going to work everyday because he gets to interact with other adults and I spend my day with my kids. I love my kids but I'd really enjoy more adult conversation during the day, you know?

Oh I completley Know and understand! I was up all night last night with my youngest because she is getting her top 2 teeth at the same time so when my husband got home I asked him to watch the girls while i got 2 hours of sleep i still couldn't sleep bc I heard the baby crying and daddy getting frustrated so I am literally running off of no sleep and I am a lil crabby when i have no sleep but only to my husband, As for the family and friends i dont like to many people in my house just because its my domain, If you walk in take off your shoes, I have a crawler and i dont need dirt all over my floor If you use the bathroom spray the seat with bleach after your done ! Its because im a germ a phobe and i dont want my kids sick! Thats why not to many people are invited over! But as far as going out if we do go somewhere my husband has a habit of taking me to someone elses house , Why would i want to go to someone elses house when im at home all day already? ya know?