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| I feel very sad right now. My husband and I are trying to have another baby and without success. We went to a fertility dr. and she said my eggs weren't growing after taking some medicine for it. I just feel scared like I may not be able to have anymore kids. I have a beautiful 13 mth old daughter right now and I am very thankful for her. I just wanted to have a large family. I keep praying that it will work out but am very anxious. I do know that everything is in God's control but it is difficult to keep reminding myself that. Does anyone have any words of comfort? |
| Posted by Kim on 07/02/2007 04:17 PM
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| From someone who has went through a miscarriage and wondering if it will ever happen again with success know it is in God's hand.He does know the desires of your heart and wishes to give them to you. We do not always understand why things happen the way it does but also know all things works together for good. Who knows maybe he may want to do other things in you first . I dont know but seek his face and he will show you. in my deepest time of depression about this i went to a conference and i got a word from God someone i did not even know Prophesied over me and it was 6 months later i found out i was pregnate with my daughter.Know i will be praying for you. |
| posted by Natasha on 07/02/2007 04:30 PM
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hi kim
I understand what you are going through it took sometime getting pregnant with our first son jacob. I really wanted to have three or four kids and i kept hoping but at that time God told me to wait and my son would be classified as special needs and needed some individual attention. It took me four or five years to finally come to the conclusion i could not have anymore and i am lucky to have jacob because i knew about six or seven couples who could not have any. Well God surprised us last year in january we got pregnant at my age and we have our second son who will be ten months tomorrow. so be happy with what you have. |
| posted by Elizabeth on 07/02/2007 06:35 PM
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I believe I know how you are feeling. I apologize in advance for rambling on and on, but this is a topic very close to my heart. I know the pain and confusion that infertility causes. I have been through clomid therapy, followed by 4 IUIs, and after that, 4 IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) procedures, and I have been on a host of fertility drugs that made me bloated, irritable and sick a lot of the time. I know you said your eggs weren't really growing; well I was the flip side. I made eggs or follicles like they were going out of style, big ones too, and try after try failed. When I did finally get pregnant, on the first IVF try, I lost the baby at 13 weeks. It was like an answer to a prayer to find out I was pregnant and then to have it all crash down on me. I was so depressed, anxious, upset, and angry. I had never seen my husband cry before, and he was at the ultra sound where we saw the heartbeat was no longer beating. I was at my lowest and I just didn't understand why someone like myself, who just wanted to have a child so badly could not, and every other day it seemed I heard horror stories of abandoned newborns left in a dumpster somewhere.
Even though I believe that God is in control, and I know God is the creator of all life I had to do whatever I could to feel like I was doing something. And I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I tried 3 more IVF attempts after the miscarriage. I am just a take charge kind of person. I prayed a lot about infertility and everything fell into place so perfectly, insurance and my results were great. I never felt like I shouldn't be trying the methods available to me. It was just hard as most people I know announce they are going to try to get pregnant and they do, and others need a little medical intervention when our bodies aren't working as one would expect.
I decided after the 4th IVF failed, that I was done trying. For me, I had to turn it over to God and I just prayed that he would use me as he saw fit, and if that meant no biological children, though it hurt and I didn't understand it, I would accept this as best as I could. Of course only through the grace of God, 2 months later, after I was off all my fertility drugs, and had accepted I'd never give birth to a child, I find out I'm pregnant. What a miracle all babies are. I often wonder why God answered my prayers with my daughter Maddie when so many other still are unable to conceive.
I just wanted you to know my history before I started to give you words of encouragement.
I just want you to know that God really loves you and wants you to be happy. And though you are having these issues, know that there is no limit to what Christ can do, in you or through you. No, we can't say with any certainty what is in our future but even when things seem hopeless remember there is nothing that Christ can't do. I'm having a hard time articulating what I'm trying to say here... I'm trying to say don't give up faith or hope. My friend, who I've since lost touch with, was going through similar issues, and she saw the fertility doctor and they said it was hopeless. She took the fertility drugs and at the first ultra sound she had one egg, and it was in their medical opinion not even worth extracting for IVF. Well, she just gave birth to a healthy baby boy naturally conceived. Amazing what we are told we can expect, and what God had already planned for us. It was just in his time that things worked out, and not in our time frame.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Diona
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| posted by on 07/02/2007 06:40 PM
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| FROM SOMEONE WHO HAD MY FIRST CHILD WITHOUT HAVING A PERIOD FOR A ENTIRE YEAR AND ALL OF A SUDDEN GOT PREGNANT AFTER 2 YRS OF TRYING I HAVE LEARNED THAT SOMETIMES WE JUST SIMPLY TRY TOOOOO HARD. AS HUMANS WE ARE WIRED FOR THE RIGHT NOW INSTEAD OF HIS PERFECT TIMING. HANG IN THERE AND LET GOD CONTINUE TO MARINATE YOUR WOMB WITH HIS BLOOD! MAYBE YOUR WOMB NEEDS A LITTLE MORE HEALING FROM THE FIRST BIRTH, U NEVER KNOW, BUT MAYBE GOD WANTS YOU TO LEARN PATIENCE BEFORE HE BLESS' U WITH ANOTHER! THE NEXT ONE MAY BE A BOY WHO IS GONNA GIVE YOU A RUN FOR YOUR MONEY:) BUT ANYHOW PRAY AND NEVER CEASE. I HAD OVARIAN CANCER AT 18 YRS OF AGE AND WAS TOLD I WOULD NEVER HAVE CHILDREN. WHEN I FINALLY DECIDED TO LET GOD SHOW ME WHAT HE WAS MADE OF I CAME OUT PREGNANT WITHOUT OVULATING AND THEN 2 YEARS AFTER THAT ONE DAY I DECIDED I WANTED A GIRL AND 3 WEEKS FROM THAT DAY I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT SOON TO FIND OUT WITH MY LITTLE SAMANTHA! SO, HANG IN THERE ENJOY WHAT GOD HAS GIVEN YOU AND BE READY TO RECIEVE HIS NEXT GIFT TO YOUR FAMILY IN HIS DUE SEASON:) GOD BLESS AND I WILL KEEP YOUR HEART, MIND, AND WOMB IN MY PRAYER! : ) |
| posted by MELISSA on 07/02/2007 10:02 PM
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| Kim, I'm so sorry you're having to go through all of this. Just keep praising God for your blessings. Trust Him, He knows what you want and He wants the best for you. When I get upset I try to remind myself of those things. God may still give you the large family you dream of, it just may not be in a way you expected. Foster parents and adoptive parents are always in need. Have you ever heard of the snowflake foundation? I think Focus on the Family has info about that ministry, it's for embryo adoption for women who cannot produce eggs or desire to use someone elses embryo. These embroys may be destroyed otherwise, but it allows a woman to give birth to her adopted child. I don't mean to presume God will not give you another child, I just wanted to let you know there are options out there that may work for you. Keep your head up, God is listening so keep talking with Him. =) |
| posted by Amber on 07/02/2007 10:10 PM
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as someone who has battled infertility for 4 1/2 years, let me tell you, there is HOPE and it is all in His timing. there's a website to support christian women with infertility --- it's hannahsprayer.org i've found great support there. fyi, if you join, you have to post 10 times to see all the forums. there are forums specifically for those who are trying to conceive when they have living children.
one thing that has helped me, and it sounds harsh, is that my husband keeps reminding me that it's OUR walk with the Lord, not someone else's, so when i got all bitter and/or jealous, he'd spit that out and i'd be really mad until it sank in.
i've taken alot of drugs and am wondering about your doc, since women respond differently to different ones. also, what blood tests did she run? honey, it's a whole world of termonology and tests, but there IS hope! i've known soooo many women who have been blessed with children, even when docs say no. you just don't know if it'll be you or not. regardless, please let me know if you need more info and know i'm praying. |
| posted by Christina on 07/02/2007 10:25 PM
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| Thank you all for your kind words. It is so nice to know that you have other Christians that can help you in your time of need. I guess I just need to look at the bigger picture, that God is in control and everything will happen in his time. I lay this down in the Lord's hands. |
| posted by Kim on 07/03/2007 10:15 AM
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I here you when you say that you are hoping for a large family. I have wanted a large family for quite some time now but my husband is all about only having two. When I think of all the work that if would take to have a large family I don't want one just like my husband but the Lord keeps telling me that I will have a large family. I feel an over powering need to let the Lord decide how many we have but my husband, even though he feels we are being called to this doesn't want to listen. He is a great guy but he has been throught a lot lately. The point of my story is that Sunday a women's studies class we when over what happen to Sarah when she tried to force God's hand. God told her that he would give you more children then she could count but she couldn't wait. So she sent her maid into her husband so that she would have his child. God still gave her a child but what she did gave her much pain. Reading about Sarah really help me to wait on God. He knows ever thing that is going on right now and everything that's going to happen. IF we fallow him he will give us great things. It may not be what we are wanting but it will be what we need. I know that God wants you to have more, I can feel it. Wait on the Lord. That is the least we can do when He's waited on us so much. Don't let the evil one still your happiness. He will make you believe that God doesn't want to give you more children. Read Genesis, it was God's idea for us the have children. Be Fruitful and multiply. Keep the faith. HE will NEVER let you down.
-Jessa |
| posted by Jessica on 07/03/2007 11:55 AM
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