hey my name is clara im a first time stay at home mom and military wife...my daughter, sanlaya, is 4 mo old (5mo on the 22nd) and we've been having these...screaming issues lol...not that she wants anything thats just what she does...scream and shriek and growl lol but after a while it becomes...pretty exhausting....that and she wants to be held ALL the time which hey is cool but mommy needs a BREAK! lol

That and she needs time to learn how to sit and roll (back to tummy) and since she's always wanting to be on my lap its kinda hard to get her that time...

any suggestions???

OH also!!! so i need to get a job (not like direly but i hate asking hubby for cash since E3 pay isnt that much) how do you find a good babysitter?? i dont know if i could trust anyone and i know it has a lot to do with separation anxiety (mine not hers...but kinda hers too)

I have a 7 month old daughter and she has and does the screaming talk. I am not sure why, I think it is just learning her voice. The worst is when she does it at church. I think it is a phase. She is doing it less and less and using a more normal level voice. She also wants to be held alot. And she would rather walk then crawl. What I have done is let her have some alone time. i put her on the floor and I go to a different part of the room and let her play alone, but I still watch. She complains but start it off with just a couple of min. and dont go back to her right away after she starts to fuss. I went to her before she cryed though. Then I gradually gave her more time alone. Also make games of learning to roll over and get toys and play with her at times on the milestones. It worked well for my daughter Emma. I hope that helps. As for getting a babysitter, I cant really help. I am a SAHM. But i do know that the city I live in has a service to help parents find a babysitter or daycare. I would do some online research and see if there is anything. I hope it goes well.

My son (who's 9 months) did the same thing at about that age.  A lot of times it was pain from teething or just wanting to be comforted.  I would sit on the floor with him on my lap and start playing with him and his toys.  In no time he was playing on his own,  this allowed me to put him on his tummy and even walk away.  Also you can try putting her on your chest on her tummy.  I would lie on the bed, place my son on his tummy and he would pull himself up to look at me. Over the months he was rolling around to play.  Now he loves to roll off of me, on to his knees and pulls himself up.

As for good childcare...Do you live on base? Where do you live? My Hubby has re-joined the Army, so I have been doing lots of research.  He leaves for WTC and AIT in a few weeks.  They have a lot of great childcare and mommy n me classes on most bases.  Try checking on base with the family assistance center (it can be called other things sometimes) or the chaplain (they seem to know everything).  Each base has a website where you can find a lot of information on what they offer for soldiers and their families.  Some base offer babysitting for as low as $2 an hour.  The military even has jobs for you and help finding a job.  They has lots of programs for families.  If you want email me and we can talk more.  Since I'm new to this whole military thing, I would love to make friends with other military wives.