Is anyone out there who has been with a man most of their life, in love, reconciled to the fact that he doesn't want kids? Enjoying the each other for the most part and got unexpectedly pregnant. Had to make the choice to either have an abortion or end the relationship.  He told me he didn't want kids and didn't want to have any relationship or responsibilty for this child.  Well, I couldn't have an abortion and there were a lot of problems in our relationship at that time so I chose my baby.  Now, I'm an old (41) single mother of a 4 year old boy.  Most of my friends are married with what seems like perfect families and I feel very alone and stuck in this part of my life.  It seems like it would be more acceptable if I was younger somehow.  I guess we all feel different sometimes but it helps to hear all your stories and find the similarities. Just wonder if there were any other old fogies out there. :)

Im not an old single parent. . but I just want to say that I think you did the right thing. It sounds like it would have been a difficult decision for you to make, but I personally couldnt have an abortion.

I dont know your personal situation but it seems that you both would have been using extra precautions to NOT get pregnant if you were so happy with each other and he specified that he didnt want kids. I would say that the baby was a sign to let you know that maybe he wasnt really the one. If he doesnt want anything to do with his own flesh and blood, I would certainly say, he's not someone I would want to be with.

I hope you find some peace in your decision and Im sure you will find someone else that makes you happy, and will accept you and your son.

I understand  I had my two old daugther at 40, so I completely understand. 

Her donor(daddy, doesn't deserve this title) began our relationship with a lie saying he wasn't married and he was!

Wasn't a communicator even though he said he wanted that is relationship and was an alcoholic, told me he was a social drinker! NNNNOOOOTTTTT!!!!!

But stead fast and continue on taking care of your little because that same little will not be little soon and you will be treasuring the memories and his donor will only wish he did!

I haven't dated going 3 years since I let him go and I am doing fine. Right now I am not ready for a serious relationship because of the trust issue I have with men.  Please being a single parent working 3 jobs, I would be too tired anyway trying to take care of a boy who perceives himself as a man.

While God is preparely him for me he is also preparing me also to ever have trust in a man around my daughter!  Keep the faith and take care of the blessing God gave you and yourself!

Once a man you care for yourself he will also care for you and he will appreciate the diamond you are and not treat you like a sapphire!

Honika