So my husband has been doing some crazy crazy stuff and pushing the envelope way too far.  My dilema is that he is a great guy (my bestfriend) and a loving father with a heart of gold.  But he is lazy as all get out, if I say Tomato he says Tomotto and lately its driving me so crazy.  Its like I have an extra kid or something.  Any ladies care to share some "husband" stories that will make me feel like my situation aint so bad?

i am very lucky have a great understanding husband, but i can tell you about my girlfriend's husband.  she doesn't get "me time".  He goes out for volleyball and waht not and pretty much does what he wants but when he has to babysit, it is a different issue.  not the babysitting part, but, when i need a break, i tell my husband, i need to get out.  i might go shopping or do what i want. but my friend says that she has to qualify a reason and if her husband thinks that it is a good reason, he has no problem watching thier daughter.  for example, if she wanted to go to a movie, he will argue about watching their daughter and will want her to stay home and spend time with the family.  but, if she wanted to do the groceries or even work out, he's fine watching the kid.  and even then, she has to make sure that the baby is fed before she goes b/c he doesn't want to do the feeding.  so, basically, if he thinks the reason is good enough, he will let her go w/o an argument. otherwise, he argues until she gives up!  lately, she has been trying to change the situation but it's been uphill, she says.  i hope that is the kind of thing you are talking about!

Hey Lalitha, out of the blue my husband called and apologized for being a jerk lately we had a nice talk and lunch together.  So this weekend I'm "kidfree", hes gonna watch them and I'm going to spend the night with my SIL and on saturday we are going to a womens retreat at church and then to a BBQ at my brothers (My surprise b-day party)!

I cant say my B/F is bad when it comes to my baby, but i have to tell/ask him to do so. Like "Can you please watch the baby so I can cook dinner?" Sometimes she'll be sitting fine then start crying while I'm in the kitchen trying to do 3 things at once & I swear he can just tune her out or something because there have been times when I have to say/ask “Can you please grab her so I can finish up in here?” If I’m in a real good mood I can even ‘humor’ him by adding “thank you! You’re such a good dad” at the end of that. On the other end, if I’ve had a rough day I come so close to saying “WTF! Don’t you hear her crying? Are you deaf, stupid, or both!? Cant you see I’m making dinner! Hell, I can so have a bowl of cereal & be happy w/ it! YOU”RE the one who wants/needs a home cooked meal!” Granted I don’t say it that way, but I have used a frustrated tone when asking if he can please pick her up so I can finish up.  Little things like that, yes are “normal” I guess. LAZY is the word. But like I said, for the most part he will do anything I ask him to & I never really have to justify why. I can easily say “I’ll be back, I’m going to run an errand. Can you stay w/ the baby” and he’ll totally do it. Ah, & there was a time when we were separated and he used to give me money (AKA CHILD SUPPORT!). He’d always stand there w/ this look of “aren’t you going to say Thank you?” on his face. Aahh, yeah, I know he wanted to hear it, but I never said it. WHY? Thank you for what? Supporting your child? What’s next trophy’s for changing a diaper? LOL. Who the hell tells us “Thank you for _______” for the 1,000,000 things we do a day? So I notice they seem to think when they act like a parent, it’s a favor to us or something. When we act like a parent we’re just doing our job.

april, u have read my mind!!beautifully done!!LMAO

I just have to say it seems they're all the same and its really a great feeling to know that im not the only one going thru it 

Yes, I guess Misery does love company... lol.

Or what about when they sigh, yawn and say "man I'm tired!" while laying down watching TV. I have told him "Umm, didnt we both just work an 8 hr shift? Yet I still came home, cooked dinner, fed the baby, gave her a bath, washed all her bottles (etc etc etc). And yet YOU'RE tired! Oh heck no! You need to stop!" I'll laugh when telling him (because it keeps me from crying..ha ha)

Wow, April you sound a little p*ssed  (LMBO).  You are right girl, but take it easy on the guy.  Some guys play sleep or leave at least yours responds when asked (haha). Men are not like us. Women on the other hand relate to each other by needing help in these situation so we are more succeptable to reacting when we hear a baby crying.  But sometimes guys thrive off that "petty praise" to make them feel like they are doing a good job.  Sometimes when men take the initiative to do things around the house they bleep it all up and make it worse than in the beginning hahah.  Like.......Washing loads of clothes and leaving them in the washer to get funky or washing too many clothes and not folding them so there all rough dried and wrinkled or using a whole container of pinesol just to mop or maybe shrinking ALL your sweaters, well you get the picture!  We women yell at them so then maybe they are just scared to DO anything for fear of being berated.  So we have to baby talk them and pat them on the rear and say good job, they love that.  Don't you hate it when they take the initiative to cook and call you for help every three or four minutes its like REALLY, AGAIN. READ THE BOX ALREADY!  Honestly I think my husband burns food up on purpose so I don;t ask him to cook hahahah!

You are soo right Brandy, but housework and my man? Ah yeah.. that's a no no. He wont do housework (nor would I want him to for the reasons you've mentioned) All I ask is that he maybe play w/ the baby while I get everything done sometimes, you know? You're right, I shoud be grateful he does it (after hearing some of the other horror stories) but sometimes you feel like "I shouldnt have to ask you.. use your common sense" But I learned to pick my battles a long time ago. Although I may feel like cursing up a storm at times, I watch what I say & how I say it. And yes, praise him like a 2 yr old at times. Figure its worth it if that's all I have to do to get some help.