Hi all!  I am hoping someone could give me some advice on a situation...my ex-husband has barely been in my son's life for pretty much the whole time he has been alive.  He is in the Army but has had more than plenty of oppurtunities to visit or contact our son.  He just recently moved to Ft. Hood and will deployed next month to Iraq.  My question is this....how should I explain to my son that his daddy won't be around to see him for another year again, when he has just chose to enter his life a couple of weeks ago?  My ex is coming this wknd to see my son but not sure if there will be any other times before deployment...

Hi Melissa, how old is your son?  Does he know "Daddy"?  Does your son realize when "Daddy" is not around?  Does he ask for him?

Honestly, if my son was young enough not to know his deadbeat Dad, then I would tell my ex-husband he is not welcome to come around.  You say your Ex has barely paid any attention to your son his entire life, why would you keep confusing your son by re-introducing "Daddy" to him every couple of months.  If you ask me, your Ex has had opportunities to see his son and has chosen not too.  In my opinion, he's lost his chance.  It cannot be good for your son to have his father keep coming in and out of his life, and I'm sure it's stressful for you too.