Hi, uumm i don't know from where to start..ok being a sahm and to top it off  i don't know driving...so i am kind a stuck at home with my daughter all day long..its not like i don't enjoy playing with her but its just that i need something more...friends iguess..so i tried this meet up site n i added myself to one of this local group just so that i can find someone who is near my house n that i can probably go for a walk atleast...but now that the group is doing meetups i am not replying back...n the reason is i don't know how i will go..coz i don't know driving as i told u earlier...but i am scared to tell them..its like if u don't know it then why did u added urself in this group..kind of thought comes to me...n around my block most of them r senior citizens..so i never see any other moms with kids...n somedays when i really feel like talking to someone n calling them..but i can't coz the few people whom i know here r always busy either they don't pick up the phone or if they do they will tell me they r busy sleeping with their kid...so..then i hav to call to my mom or my mother in law who live in india which costs me a lot n so i cannot even do that....i just feel like crying like hell somedays which i do n then my husband gets angry coz i am crying (his way of stopping me)..lol..but seriously i don't know wat to do.....i guess my major problem is driving i never thought its gonna be so imp...

oh monica. i feel exactly the way you do! i'm stuck in the houes all day long with my little one too and i do not know anyone in the neighborhood because we just moved here. the people that i do know are significantly older than i am and are very active in church. although i do believe in God and all that jazz, i'm not really into that 24/7. if you're located anywhere near southern new jersey, let me know! send me a message or something. maybe we can hang out and I"LL do the driving. LOL.

I'm so sorry to hear your pain.  It's rough that you took steps to help yourself out and are being so frustrated by it.

When my daughter was a baby I had a friend who couldn't drive.  We lived in the suburbs and there was really no way for us to walk anywhere, either.  I picked her up at her house and we would drive to a mall with a play area in it to spend the day together.  We met this way once a week for 8-9 months before she moved away. 

If the meet-up people that you've met haven't been supportive, perhaps you should find another meet-up group, if that's possible.  You could also check out seemommyrun.com and see if you can get a group together that will walk from a location convenient to your house.

If you're just nervous about replying because you can't drive, be honest in your responses and see if there is someone nearby who might be willing to help you out.  Many moms are very compassionate people who will understand that you added yourself to the group because everybody needs adult interaction, you just happen to need a little additional help.  Guessing in advance that people are going to reject you is not going to help in this situation.  Just trust.  It will work out, somehow.

I run a mommy group in Central Jersey.  there have been more than a couple of moms who never learned to drive being from New York or that happened to have the car in the shop for whatever reason.  We have all helped eachother out at those times.  other members have pick one another up.  Give people a chance to help.  They can't help if they don't know your situation.  It can only get better, Hon!

you can join a meet up group and not go to the groups activities.. You can just have someone to talk too online.. But, I would tell them your situation and if they aren't supportive find a new group.. Church group, ect... I was in a group and one of the members would pick up people that didn't have a way to get to the playgroups.. So, if you don't speak up you, won't know if they will help you out or not.. And again if they don't, you don't need that group anyways.. There is a group out there for everyone so, keep trying.. And have you talked to your dr. about depression.. seems to me that you might need something.. I too need something and I am taking something.. It helps!  Don't make it worse on yourself. and keep your chin up!! We are here for you, if not anything else....

Hey Monica,  I feel the same way you do!!! I have been looking for a playgroup or a moms group too but I have found nothing.   I would have to agree with everybody else just tell them you can't drive, someone should be willing to help out especially if you offer them some gas money.  The price of gas is usually the reason people are not willing to drive (at least in my experience).  I hope you get it figured out!!!  If your ever want to chat I would love to:)

monica, sorry to hear your haveing a hard time lately. what county and state do you live in?if its anywhere near me in pinellas county, florida, we could talk/and or maybe hang out sometime. ( i could even teach you how to drive.) you can email me sometime if you want too, at:tafurma@hotmail.com (me and my family are good christian people.)

teresa,mom of one two year old son.

Hi u all, thanks for listening n replying back...n after ur suggestions i tried to mail the organizer of the meetup group n she did mailed me back asking my address which i again mailed her n now i am waiting for her response...seriously not telling anything was making my condition worst but now that i hav let it out my feelings i feel so good...n all thanks to u guys coz i wud hav never mailed it to her with the assumption of getting the answer no..which is wrong...i know now

n yes i live in CA..so its way far otherwise i wud hav love to hang out with u but still we can talk ...right..lol 

Where in CA are you?  I'm in Mill Valley (near San Francisco).

Oh i am in Fremont (45 mins drive from sfo)

Bummer!  Well, I will see if any of my friends know of other moms groups that might be near you as well.

Ok..that wud be great!!!

Im not sure where you found your playgroup but you can try looking on meetup.com for more. All you do is type in your zip and what you are looking for (play group, moms group, etc) and the playgroups close to you will pop up! Also for the group you just joined maybe you could host a playdate that way they can come to you! Good Luck I hope everything works out