Hi - Our regular day care closed, and we were lucky to hire a nanny, however, both my husband and I have been swamped with work and haven't really had time to spend time with our new nanny to see how she does with the kids (2 1/2 and 1 yrs old). Someone suggested I should get a nanny spy camera...does anyone has a suggestion? used them? recommendation? comment?

As a former nanny I don't agree with the nanny cams. If you can't trust your nanny alone with your kids then you should find someone else. Your kids will also let you know if they aren't happy with her. My feeling on a nanny cam is that you can't trust her.  and that's the way she will feel as well. But as a mom if it helps you go to work every day and not worry about your kids then so be it. There are days that I wish I had a camera I could look at when I leave the baby with my husband. But that's just cuz he plays xbox 24/7.

lol...share your feelings about the hubby...yeah I agree I have to trust her to be able to go to work feeling worryless...its just that the change happened in such a short period of time and during our most heavy workload that I haven't have time to see her in action.  Thank you for your comment.

I think when your kids are so young that they can't verbalize their feelings, then a nanny cam might be necessary. I would also recommend you really get to know the nanny well first before using her. Also, double-check her references for the ages of the kids she worked with as well as the setup of the previous households she worked in. Some nannies are used to one style of family (discipline and so forth).

There is no way in hell that I would leave my son with a nanny without one.  If this nanny is that good then I feel that she would completely understand.  If there is nothing to hide then why be offended by it.  If I was a nanny I would not be offended by one.  I would just take it that they are good parents.  You cannot trust your kids with anyone.  I guarantee that all the parents that did not have one and found out things were not as they thought that they kicked themselves in the butt for not having one.  

As a nanny I would undersand wanting a camera. But that also tells a person that you don't trust them at all. As a mom I have never left my son with anyone that I did not trust. Including my mother. Who doesn't listen to anything I say when my son is involved. But my question is would you ask the same of a daycare? I have worked as both. A nanny and in 2 daycares. One of which is a in home the other a more traditional daycare. I will never ever put my child in a daycare. ever. I would rather go with a nanny any day of the week. Not only will that child get personalized attention but they will be in their own home and you can regulate what they do and what they eat.

If you hire someone to care for your child then make sure it's someone you can trust. With or without a nanny cam you still have to trust that person with your child's life. If you suspect that something isn't right then bring in the nanny cam. By all means protect your child first. But rather than just hire someone and put in a nanny cam to ensure your child's safety. Hire a trustworthy person.

I agree with everything that has been said. You've got to find a person that's trustworthy. However, that is no where near as easy as it seems.

In today's world, people have learned to create traits in themselves that they do not posess and can successful fool anyone who interacts with them. I say this because I have seen it and the negative things come from it. My husband's sister was molested by a "well-trusted" babysitter when she was 4 years old, and those issues still haunt her today at 25. My now ex-sister-in-law was molested by another "well-trusted" person when she was very young as well, and ultimately her inability to deal with those issues led to her divorce with my brother and inability to care for their daughter.

When you hire someone you've only met with once or twice, you cannot always be sure they are as trustworthy as they appear. It's unfortunate that that's what the world has come to, but as a parent I feel we have the right to protect our children by any means necessary. If they nanny has a problem with a spycam, I'd think twice about my decision to hire her. What does she have to hide that she doesn't want seen on a spycam? I wish the world were a safer place, but the reality is that it's not, and we have to make absolutely sure that our children are not harmed.

I totally agree with making sure you are getting someone that you totally trust, but that does not give them the right to be above a nanny cam.  I still stand with they should understand.  And, again, you cannot trust anyone.  I don't care if the nanny thinks I don't trust her, and she should understand.  Ex. a good friend of mine cheated with my best friend's husband.  After that my best friend told me that she did not trust me or even her mother anymore.  I told her that I totally understand and it is acceptable.  She should not trust anyone.  She later told me that me saying that and being understanding is the only thing that allowed us to remain freinds.  She brushed off all her other friends due to not trusting anyone.  The point is the same with this.  People should understand that you can't trust anyone.  If they don't understand it then find someone who will.  After all this is your child we are talking about.