I just made sure to tell mine that we are going to have a baby. .since they were able to see/feel the baby in my belly I also told them the dr was going to take the baby out of my belly and we were going to bring the baby home. I really didnt tell my son much b/c he was only 13 months when my daugther was born. .but he was 2 1/2 and she was 18 months when I had the twins, so I just tried to explain to them that there were 2 babies in my belly and they would have a new brother and a new sister. They came to the hospital once while I was there and saw the babies, and my daughter (the clingy one like your son) was very upset that I was holding one of the babies, and she wanted me to hold her. She had maybe one or two little fits once we were home b/c I couldnt tend to her right away or hold her when she wanted, but she actually got over it quicker than I thought she would. My mother said that when she was pregnant w/ me, she told my brother that I was HIS baby, and when she came home from the hospital she handed me to my brother and let him hold me, and just let him help take care of me. I dont know if that might help in your situation or not. He could be a big helper if he wants to be, but of course you wouldnt want him to feel like he has to. I guess Im not a whole lot of help, but I hope it is a smooth transition for you and your son. Good luck. and Congrats on twins!! |
