Is there any hope to getting my partner to take on some of the load? I just need a break sometimes. I have no "me time." Unless its after baby is in bed late at night then Im tired! Any hope?

I would suggest getting him in the regiment of giving the baby a bath at night. When my son was little, I left it up to my husband to give my son a bath. I think it really helped him realize that my son was not breakable. Also, whenever he was home, I would coax him to change my sons' diaper. I think it you get your partner involved early on, it is easier when they get older to pass the baby off to him when you are sick/tired/etc. I didn't want my son to think I was the only one that could feed/change/clean him up. It has really done wonders when we leave him overnight with my parents'. He is happy to have an overnight with grandma and grandpa. Good luck!

My husband told me if I wanted another baby he won't change a diper.  I knew before I got pregnant I wouldn't get any help.  He does give baths sometimes.

My husband told me if I wanted another baby he won't change a diper.  I knew before I got pregnant I wouldn't get any help.  He does give baths sometimes.

Communication usually works for me. I found when i first had my daughter i just expected my husband to want to help me out and see where i was at and want to give me some free time once in awhile, but men are different that way, they need to be told directly what to do. Once i realized that then i began asking him to help me out with certain duties  and told him how i felt about having some "me" time once in awhile and how it re-energizes me and makes me a better wife and mother. He got it after a bit. I think its important not to get bitter and hold everything in because then you get more and more angry with your husband and he has no clue what he did. I still get bitter once in awhile but i'm learning :) Its definately a learning process for the both of us!

Jennifer is definitely on the money.  I did the same thing and just expect him to KNOW to step in.  His take was that if I wanted help I would ask.  We finally started communicating instead of assuming and it helped.  I would get so frustrated and angry and that did no one any good.  Good luck.