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| Help!! My 2 year old son is BAD!!! Hitting, spitting, pushing, screaming... I'm afraid to take him around other kids sometimes. I feel like a horrible mom who can't control her son. Nothing works. He likes time out. Please send some advice before I get a call from the preschool in Sep.!! |
| Posted by missy on 06/27/2007 09:58 AM
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| Ok Missy I would like to start off that no child is bad!!! What do you do when he does those things? I have worked with children for years and time out does not work. Who doesn't want to sit in a chair?? He is getting attention, walk away!! You need to tell him " What you are doing is hurting mommy and I am going to walk away and when you are ready to talk to me I will listen" Then walk away and SAY NOTHING! He can scream as long as he wants. Sophie has never hit, or things like that but she has said no to us and just screams until she gets her way but the thing is we don't give in. Trust me it works. Just let he throw his fit and he will get it after a while WOW I am not getting attention. People say is Sophie a hand full seeing as you have a new born and I say no she is not bad, or a handle, but she does talk alot for her age. A REAL LOT!! I don't believe children are bad, they just need some attention at their way of getting maybe in a negative way, so prasie them on the good things and ignore the bad!! I hope that helps!!! |
| posted by Jeanette on 06/27/2007 10:12 AM
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| hi missy. i completley agree with jeanette. i used to say my baby is bad until someone told me, she is not bad, she is almost 2, that's all. do not give in and i know i need to take my own advice sometimes and i know it is easier said than done. also, when he is throwing a fit, try not to let him see you are aggravated or annoyed because he will pick up on that and it will make it worse. you are not a horrible mom so push that nasty thought from your head. just do not give in. |
| posted by Jennifer on 06/27/2007 12:04 PM
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| Thank you Jennifer!!! You can't give in!!! He is two!! Again that is what they do. They push you to see how far you will go, so stop it before it gets worse. Children are alot smarter then people give the credit for!!! Just remember that missy!! He is just working you!! |
| posted by Jeanette on 06/27/2007 12:29 PM
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| I agree that no child is bad, but I do disagree about time outs. At about 20 months my son turned into a terror; hitting pushing and biting, so I started putting him in time out and it worked like a charm. He still acts up, but then he gets a time out and acts better. I do think that they do not work for every child. If one thing doesn't work try another, but always be consistant. |
| posted by Angela on 06/27/2007 02:15 PM
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| I am going through the same thing with my son, I have been ignoring him and time out and nothing was working either. The other day he smacked me so hard in the face that I smacked his butt just once and not really hard but it scared him enough that although he still throws 500 fits aday and those I can ignore but he hasnt hit me again. I'm not by any means saying hit your child but you need to find what works for yours because every child is different and respond diiferently to things. Have you taken away all his toys or ignore him. I know its hard when they are screaming and freaking out. Does you love their stages LOL it can't last forever I hope it works out for you |
| posted by amber on 06/27/2007 07:16 PM
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