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My husband is in the Army he is deployed and in Iraq we moved in with his dad to save money and buy a house when he comes back in 15 months, the problem is that my son got extrreamly attached to his grandfather not a bad thing but its getting bad my father inlaw goes to work and my son is ok he eats at the table plays wi his brother and his toys plays outside and eats what ever healthy food I make then watches tv for a bout 30 minutes before his nap.
When my father in law comes home he is a different child he is mean to the baby takes his toys yells at me he wants coke (he is not allowed to have) watches tv for more that 4 hours I dodnt know what to do I dont want to move out coz my boyfriend is going to think I amleaving him I know him plus yes we have the money but we would much rather save and get our oun place I am sick of my son acting up when his grandpa is here wha can i do any ideas |
| Posted by Mary on 06/26/2007 02:06 PM
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Good Afternoon Mary.........
I kinda know what you are going through. My children, especially the girls are extremely attached to my father-n-law, and the boys are attached to my mother-n-law. When my father-n-law comes in, the girls will go as far as to ignore their Dad for their Grand-Dad. When I noticed that their behavior was changing based on my n-laws appearence, I talked to my n-laws and explained to them that their behavior was not tolerated well with me. I know that when I am not around that they allow them to do whatever. Drink soda, get loaded on sugar, watch cartoons all ding-dong day, etc.....but I was the one who had to calm them down after the visit. I jsut explained to them that they had to help me make the children understand that they have ti obey me or else they would not be able to visit as much. I know that they may sound harsh, but it was a threat that the kids understood. And seeing as though you guys are all under the same roof, ask ur father-n-law to lay down the rules with your son. If your son acts out, he looses something. Since he is only 15 months old there is not too much that you can take away. But you can make them have a seat, calm down, say sorry as best possible and once again have father-n-law back you up. |
| posted by sharice on 06/26/2007 02:29 PM
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| thanks for the advice I realy hope this helps I just dont know how to ask him to stop with my 2 year old he didnt start till about 8 months ago when we moved in but since my baby was born here he is starting to have soda at 9 months and follow his brothers foot steps |
| posted by Mary on 06/26/2007 04:36 PM
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