MY FIANCE HAS THIS FRIEND WHO I CANT STAND.  HE HAS 2 KIDS, DOESNT WORK (HIS WIFE DOES) BUT CANT HANDLE THE BABY SO HE ONLY WILL WATCH HIS 4YR OLD.  ANYWAYS, HE ALSO HAD ROBBED A BIKE STORE LAST YEAR, HANGS OUT WITH THE BMX TEENS IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD (HE IS 23) AND IS JUST ANNOYING.  ANYWAYS, TONIGHT, AFTER MY FIANCE LEFT FOR THE STORE, THIS GUY SHOWS UP WITH 3-4 OTHER GUYS.  APPARENTLY, MY FIANCE THOUGHT THEY WOULD BE PLAYING THE VIDEO GAME AT HIS FRIENDS HOUSE, BUT HIS FRIEND JUST SHOWED UP AND IS WAITING HERE FOR MY FIANCE.

INSTEAD OF HIM TELLING HIS FRIEND TO GO HOME SO THEY CAN PLAY THE GAME AT THE ORIGIONAL DESTINATION, HE JUST GOES WITH THE NEW PLAN.  I WAS HOPING FOR A NIGHT TO MYSELF SINCE I HAD ALREADY PUT THE BABY TO BED AND HE WAS GOING OUT.  NOW I HAVE TO HAVE THESE PUNKS IN MY LIVING ROOM TILL LIKE 3AM.  I DONT MIND HIM HAVING FRIENDS OVER, BUT HE KNOWS HOW I FEEL ABOUT THIS ONE SO HE TRIES TO KEEP IT MINIMAL.  HOWEVER, WHAT BOTHERS ME MOST IS HIS LACK OF.....WHATS THE WORD?  BALLS?  HE KNOWS THAT ALL I DO IS HIDE OUT IN THE ROOM WHEN THESE GUYS COME OVER CAUSE I CANT STAND THEM, SO WHY CANT HE INSIST THEY PLAY AT HIS FRIENDS AS PLANNED?  HE WONDERS WHY I AM MAD AT HIM FOR THIS, WELL LETS SEE, I WAS HOPING FOR A QUIET NIGHT BUT NOW I AM HOUSING TEENS AND AN IDIOT.

i would explain all of that to him. tell him that you dont have a problem with him having friends over, but you dont like this one. you said that he knows that, but he apparently doesnt understand how much you dislike this guy, otherwise he would respect your feelings and tell his friend to leave.

I would take your fiance aside, right now (i am assuming this is happening now), and tell him that you would really appreciate it if he would tell them to leave now. they had already made plans to have their get together at a different place, and you wanted to be able to relax in your own house. if he needs to tell them it is because of you, or because the kids are sleeping, then fine. i mean you dont really want a bunch of guys hanging around your living room untill 3 am while your kids are trying to sleep.

it would be different if the plan was for them to hang out at your house, and you knew, and agreed, to that. but it is ridiculous that they just showed up at your house and then settled in, and even more ridiculous that your fiance didnt say anything to them.

He robbed a store and hes in your house with your baby? Hell no. First of all this guy is obviously bad news and your fiance needs to drop him. That is not the kinda person you want hanging around in your house. Second, that is your house too and if you were expecting a nice quiet evening at home then you should get it! Im sure you are exhausted from taking care of the baby all day. He needs to respect the fact that you need your time to yourself without the baby and his friends over all nite till 3 am. You shouldnt have to feel uncomfortable in your own home. "Guys" nite should be at one of his buddies house that has no kids. I think you should def tell him how you feel, and your right, tell him to grow some balls! LOL

WELL, I JUST LEFT AND WENT OUT TO A COUPLE OF FRIENDS HOMES BECAUSE HE DIDNT SAY ANYTHING UNTIL AFTER I LEFT (UNANNOUNCED) BUT ALL HE SAID WAS THAT I WAS PISSED OFF.  DIDNT TELL THEM TO LEAVE OR ANYTHING.  SO I STAYED OUT FOR A FEW HOURS AND NOW I AM HOME AND EXHAUSTED AND MY FIANCE SAYS I ACTED LIKE A CHILD AND RUDE FOR JUST LEAVING LIKE THAT.  I GUESS THEY ALL KNEW I WAS MAD WHEN I STORMED OUT OF THE HOUSE. 

WHEN I CAME HOME I TOLD HIM HOW I FELT AND HE SAID HE WAS SORRY.  I TOLD HIM SORRY WASNT GOOD ENOUGH EBCAUSE HE HAD NO RESPECT FOR ME TONIGHT.  I TOLD HIM THAT I DIDNT THINK HIS BUDDY WAS A GOOD GUY CAUSE OF THE ROBBERY AND HE SAID THAT HE'S KNOWN HIM FOR A VERY VERY LONG TIME (I KNEW THAT) AND THAT IT WAS HIS FIRST OFFENSE SO HE WASNT GOING TO DROP HIM JUST CAUSE I SAID SO.  WE ARENT TALKING AT THE MOMENT, I TOLD HIM UNTIL HE WAS OLD ENOUGH TO SEE MY POINT OF VIEW I WOULD PREFER HIM TO LEAVE ME ALONE.

To protect your child, it is not up to anyone who is in the house but you.  If he chooses to hang out with the wrong people he needs to do it away from your baby's safe home.  You are not saying who he can be friends with, you are doing the  job of a resonsible parent by not endangering your child.  He is risking you and your household being investigated by allowing criminals into your house. Don't ever back down to protecting your child, no one else can but the two of you.  If he does not care enough about respecting you he needs to respect the baby that can not protect or speak for itself.  Play with the guys outrside the house, no rough housind or roughians in the house.

To protect your child, it is not up to anyone who is in the house but you.  If he chooses to hang out with the wrong people he needs to do it away from your baby's safe home.  You are not saying who he can be friends with, you are doing the  job of a resonsible parent by not endangering your child.  He is risking you and your household being investigated by allowing criminals into your house. Don't ever back down to protecting your child, no one else can but the two of you.  If he does not care enough about respecting you he needs to respect the baby that can not protect or speak for itself.  Play with the guys outrside the house, no rough housind or roughians in the house.