That always gets touchy and it takes a lot of great communication skills to minimize the conflict. I would get into joint therapy fast to start developing these tools fast before you both dig yourselves into a hole with criticism and blame. There are some good books on the subject too that I'm sure you could get from the library. Never underestimate the power of good advice! My exboyfriend had two kids and I have one son and he was often critical of my parenting. He had some valid conerns but he had trouble expressing them in a constructive way. In the end, he didn't want therapy and I didn't want to continue without some change. We broke up for several reasons but that was one of them. At one point his comments made my son cry at a restaurant and he never saw him again because that was something I would not tolerate.
Good luck. This is a tough challenge and I wish you well. |
